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post #1 of 4 Old 08-02-2011, 04:29 PM Thread Starter
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Need some advice

Okay, so long story short a friend if mine is currently in rehab. Myself and another friend have been EXTREMELY supportive from the beginning about her getting the help she needs. We have a mutual friend however which has been kind of distant. I can completely understand, its a serious issue and some people just don't handle scenarios like this doesn't make her any less of a friend.

My problem is that she is making REALLY lame excuses for her behavior. We were all supposed to hang out the weekend before our friend went in to treatment, but she had "tons of homework to do" like it was impossible to take one hour to drop by and show her support. Last weekend, we were supposed to visit our friend and not only did she never get back to me despite text messages and Facebook messages, but she told our friend she had to work all day but was on Facebook instead, talking about playing PS3 and obviously not working. This pisses me off a lot, purely because she's lying about it.

My dilemma is whether or not to tell our friend in rehab. She has a long road ahead of her, even after she comes home and I would hate for her to think she has a support network that isn't there.
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post #2 of 4 Old 08-02-2011, 04:33 PM
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I would not go out of my way to discuss it, but I also would not be deceptive if asked by the friend in rehab. This sort of situation is not always comfortable for people and it may be that the friend WANTS to be suppportive, but isn't able to bring themselves to actually do so just yet (does that make sense?) I would suggest talking with the friend who is avoiding things and see what is going on rather than trying to address it with the friend in rehab who currently has more than enough to deal with as it is.
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We all have to learn about "fair weather" friends. Those that only want to be friends when life is good. I wouldnt tell you friend in treatment....she will figure out who is her true friends & who isnt.
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post #4 of 4 Old 08-03-2011, 06:17 PM
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I agree, sometimes it can be hard to the friend itself too.

I wouldn't interfere, unless, like themacpack said, the friend in rehab asked it.

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