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post #1 of 15 Old 09-19-2009, 10:43 PM Thread Starter
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need some advice, in a little bit of a rut, please read

okay, im fifteen years old, im in grade ten and i have ABSOLUTELY no idea what i want to be when i am older. is this normal ?? because i feel that i should have an idea atleast of what i want to do in my life. i dont know if i want to go to university, i dont know what to do!!!! and that really scares me my dream ( and probably everyone else on this forum haha) is to be a show jumper when i am older, haha but i know i am faaaaaaar from that, and i know that it is always important( to me anyway) to achieve your goals and dreams, even if they do seem like they could nvr happen. Another thing i would like to do when im older is be a MX racer, and i know im far from that too. these kind of "jobs" arent really jobs, but more so a "leisurely job" you know? like one day im not just going to say" i want to be a famous show jumper, " and than poof, the next day im gonna be that, cause thats not how it goes. when you are in professions like those, it takes many many years to be good and to achieve your goals, those arent the kind of "jobs:" that happen over night. but i would still like a proffesion like that. its really wierd i know. you guys are probably thinking " wth?!? you will never be that, or why would you want to be something like that" those are the things that interest me. im just so confused as what to do. i think it is important to get an education and go to university, but i dont know what i would go to university for!! i cant go to university to be a show jumper or mx racer, and i dont know what i want to be or what i want to learn about you know? i understand that you have to work your way when you want to achieve professions like these, but im scared that if i would choose to do something like that, it may nvr work out or something would go wrong. uggggghhhhh im just worried im going to end up like a bum living on the streets in a box with no life. i have no clue what to do!! im sorry for such the long novel and its sort of like a rant, but what would you guys do? im not really in a "situation" but im just stuck and scared. of course like everyone else, i want to be wealthy and have a nice house and blah blah blah, but i need a well paying job to have those things, and i dont know what that job is !!!! grrrrrr, im sorry everyone, some advice please??

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post #2 of 15 Old 09-19-2009, 10:58 PM
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At fifteen years old I wanted to be a showjumper, horse trainer, doctor, surgeon, lawyer, journalist, author, "professional traveller", psychiatrist, youth worker the list goes. It changed every week but they were some of the recurring themes.

At fifteen I had no idea what I wanted to do, not really, I had little 'far away' dreams that I liked the idea of, but the reality of most careers is very different to the idea. My advice is that if you don't know what you want to do in the future right now, choose the path that gives you the most options. In my mind that is continuing your education then probably moving onto university. If you want to be a show jumper or an MX Racer although its difficult and probably not wise to pursue them directly make decisions with that in mind. For example, you may decide to undertake a university education but because you want to be a SJer you choose a university where it is affordable to keep a horse and there is access to many SJ competitions and trainers.

Every experience we have alters us a little and because of this things change over time. A year from now you are going to be different to who you are now, and your wants and aspirations are going to be different. If you choose a path that allows flexibility and change then you will still be in a good position. Eventually you'll just sort of have an idea about what you want.

I'm at university now and i'm doing majors I never thought I would do, and I don't really want a career in them, I think, but thats okay. I know that by the end of uni i'll have more of an idea.
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post #3 of 15 Old 09-20-2009, 09:32 AM
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Same here. Except I'm soon 20 and I should do the decision NOW when the joint application system for the studying programmes starting in January is open. I feel I've even taken some extra time for my decisions and I don't want take it any more.

I have no all clear idea about your schooling system but I guess you've still some years before you have to do your decision? It's not bad if you have still some years to decide, but you could start to 'smell' things a bit. What do you like about? What kind of assets and weakness do you have? etc. I agree with Saskia, people change when time goes and their goals change too but some kind of 'self contemplation' is never bad. Maybe you can find a some kind of common straw which helps you find your way later. Don't still take stress for it.

As to the show jumper thing, I think there's only few 'top' riders who can ride it as a career. Still, if you're really passionately into it who'll ever know if you become one of those people some day? I still recommend you to consider some more steady and ordinary career and studies. It won't rule out the rider thing, if you find you are talented you can always try to reach the 'top' but then you've still a degree that ensures you've some kind of career if it won't work out.

I also like Saskia's idea of a flexible path. Good luck, don't stress over it .

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post #4 of 15 Old 09-20-2009, 10:25 AM Thread Starter
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^^ thanks guys. i appriciate your opinions on things and such. i dont want to be a show jumper for a living lol, its only a dream like all of us have haha my problem is i dont know what to go get an education for because nothing else interests me. i hate politics, i hate the medical field, i dont like teaching or anything that. i know that as time goes on, my thoughts will change and such, but i think jobs like those will never suit me because ever since i was young i wasnt in to stuff like that and it just absolutely does not interest me. Only time will tell as to how things will go for me in my life. what will be, will be, and what wont, wont lol.

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post #5 of 15 Old 09-20-2009, 10:28 AM Thread Starter
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but i have a wierd question lol. does anyone know Jim Shockey? well if you dont, he is a "famous" hunter is the easiest way to put it to you guys. he pretty much gets paid millions for hunting moose, deer , elk , goats, all the exotic animals and such. how does someone get a "job" like that?? or you just have to be good and show the world that you are good and than get all the money lol. lol sorry for such a wierd question haha

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Well Shocky is the exception to the rule, he is pretty much a God to anyone that loves to hunt!

However I know many other guides/outfitters (which is what Shocky is) that make barely enough money to survive off of. He is a talented man who also stumbled upon a bit of luck to be paid big money to do what he loves. He' has worked very hard, it's not just luck, but they are people just as good as him that never got the opputunities that he did.
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Jim who?? Oh! The Bambi killer. :p

I didn't know then, either. Well, I had lots of ideas and all of them to do with horses. Still heading that way now but with not much clearer ideas.
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I never realized there were others like me who wanted to be a pro show jumper. lol I've wanted to be one since I was like 4 years old, no joke. But to be something like that I think you have to be born into it, or at least come from a wealthy family.

I don't really want to be one anymore. Yes, it'll always be something I'll want to do, but I don't feel as strongly about it as I once did. I'm 18, and I still have no idea what I want to do. And I too, want to have enough money to live comfortably with a few horses. TBH, I just want a top-of-the-line stable. Indoor arena, huge grass pastures, etc. I could careless about the house I'd live in. lol But I'm sure that'll change too.

Saskia, has the right idea. Don't stress. There are many kids who are having the same problem.
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post #9 of 15 Old 09-20-2009, 06:08 PM
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Ill be 14 in a little more than 3 months and I have NO plans. I'm not doing to hot in school either =/. Its totally normal.
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post #10 of 15 Old 09-20-2009, 06:32 PM
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I also had to say that if I wasn't a stay at home mom I wouldn't know what to do...

I guess I have a few idea's that I play around with but nothing really serious. That will all have to change once the kids are in school, then I go back to school!
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