Needing guidance in future deciscions for Oliver and I
So iv been thinking for awhile about what I really want to do with Oliver! Iv had him a little over a year. He is truly my soul horse, love this guy to prices and would do anything for him! He's taught me so much and we have already gone through so much. Trainers who didn't put his safety and health first, being in a crapoy barn that got him sick (I was with past trainer, who has since not been apart of our training or anything anymore) all in all lots of changes in what seems to feel like a short year and I'm yet again faced with more changes needing to happen. He's been a trooper and with all the not so great things this last year there have been as many if not more good or even great things that have happened. Iv learned the type of person I want to train with and what I will and will not tolerate. Learned my gut instinct is best. Through all the change Oliver has not once acted up in any way shape or form, he's a real trooper. As if he knows that as long as I am there it will be okay one way or another. In the last eight months we have grown tether under saddle more then I could have ever imagined and has been much worth the disappointment of not showing him last summer (can have his show debut be even more exciting, worth it and memorable!) his health is at it's best and his mental health at it best as well! We have gotten to clinic with gold medalist who is an amazing trainer and has helped us both so much! (well worth the $300 I paid for all the help this year)
So like I said before, I'm not faced with more change. Not by choice, but I have many choices in the change and would like some advice, guidance and any other options you guys can think of.
What I have now:
An amazing person who is helping me and Oliver, has pushed me to really hard and boosted Ollie's confidence in himself as well as helped me create our rides and work more fun for both of us. I have nothing to complain about with where she has brought us to in our training. His pasture is great, he doesnt do well in a bigger barn and being stalled most of the day (stall walker and will drop weight like crazy) he has a very very large paddock with large run in shelter with a easy good diet. I have a good sized (for what I need) outdoor arena, lockable tack locker, washer and dryer, hot and cold water for bathing, trails near by and a huge amazing huge park just 10 minutes away by car!
Im looking into moving my mom and I over to the island (where Ollie is). I used to live here for 4 year about 6 year ago. It's just a short 20 min ferry ride from Seattle, where I currently live (10 minutes away from the ferry dock)
I'm looking I to an amazing house that would really work for my mom and I (I'm still in college and my mom and I very close and living together works right now) partly because I'm not there so often, I stay where Oliver is boarded, family to me and I have my own room and bathroom. This works out great. I do the barn and pasture cleaning and get to ride and get lots of help. Iv been doing this for the last 8 months. I'd love it if we could move there, I could committ for days for riding and get more jobs helping work with other people's horses and start helping with the local 4H club I sued to be in, and start teaching lessons (something I would really like to to do)
Iv been offered another option, something that could also be good for me.
My family friend is moving to Bend OR and invited me to bring Oliver with her. This would mean me getting up and leaving everything I have here. I'd have to find a new trainer, new barn to board at until we build our own place (that's her big plan in moving) I'd have to figure out a source of income to support Oliver. I'd be living in the house with my friend helping with her young kid. We are like sisters :)
Or if my mom decides to move further north I to the city I could look for roommate or move in full time with my family friend where Ollie is now. The only thing is I do t want to further intrude on their private place. They are very ki d and amazing people and I don't want to take advantage of my situation I have with them.
The reason for all these options to move is because they themselves are moving, staying on the island but having to start boarding the horses and such. She has set up a place for me to board ollie at. Very very kind if her to take that on....with out even talking to me. It would be a great place, safe and good care and with a large covered arena, XC course, trails, and three other arenas, where all the island horse events are held. Not complaints there! I'm sure not more $$$ then what I am paying now.
So as you can see I'm faced with decisions and choices to make for Oliver and I.
One reason for moving to OR, I'm just about 21, time to be out of the house with mom. Start my own life doing my own things.
One huge goal I have had in then last couple of years is taking the time to get my rider USDF medals and ride with great riders and trainers to become the best rider and trainer I can to go onto help others.
I need help!! Ugh
What do you see being the best option?
Any other ideas?
I'm feeling very overwhelmed
I also don't want to let anyone, including myself down. But seems like no matter what decision I do make someone will be let down or not understand.
I don't want to give up the amazing things I have going for Oliver and I now but also am at the point in my life where I want to go and start my life and try new things, just nit completely alone!
Growing up isn't easy and doesn't come with a manual!
I want to do best by oliver, myself and my famaily those supporting me now!