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View Poll Results: So, kids, yea or nae?
Yes, I think I am ready now! 4 10.81%
Yes, but not right now. 11 29.73%
No, I do not want to have children. 14 37.84%
No, I am unable to have children but want them. 1 2.70%
I want kids, but think it is irresponsible to have them right now or in the near future. 6 16.22%
I think adoption is a selfless and caring option and want to adopt a child. 6 16.22%
Multiple Choice Poll. Voters: 37. You may not vote on this poll

 
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    12-15-2009, 06:45 PM
  #1
Green Broke
The no breeding bandwagon, hehehe

So, I am not going to talk about the "no breeding horses" bandwagon, rather the "no having kids" one.

When I was little I loved playing with baby dolls, but I was very mature for my age and even then, I knew that I didn't want kids.


I was diagnosed with cervical cancer over a year ago, and was told that I may never have kids depending on whether or not I would have to undergo severe treatment. Again, I was fine with this, though my family freaked out and told me I needed to have one now just in case, I just looked at every one like they were crazy and gave a curt no thank you and that was the end of it.

Now my boyfriend wants to have kids(not right away, but he definitely wants them and @ the very least 2) he has a large family and wants to "continue the bloodline" GAH! (He has very strong Scottish and Celt ancestry, the McGregor clan I think...)


Regardless what he wants, I think that that it would be irresponsible on my part with the way the economy is going, the state of the planet in general, and just my lack of want for a child, to have one. I think I am not financially able to give it what it needs, and will not be for at least 10 or so years until I am out of school, and then I want to be able to focus on my career. Plus, with the divorce rate today, it makes me hesitate because I grew up in a very broken and blended family and it was terrible, I don't want my progeny to have that same problem growing up.

So are there any of you out there like me? Not giving in to the baby craze? Or do you think it is selfish not to bring another life to the planet?

Lets hear some opinions!
     
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    12-15-2009, 07:47 PM
  #2
Yearling
I absolutely do not want kids. I'm 19 and engaged, getting married next October, and my fiance and I don't want kids at all. He's got 4 younger siblings all under the age of 6. We babysit them all weekend long, usually every weekend. And we about fall over dead at the thought of little munchkins running around. Esp. Considering Pat and I had a hard enough time in school, and we don't want to have to deal with the school issues anymore. We have intricate plans for the future, such as a house built from scratch once we are older with unusual plans for the layout, etc. We'd rather enjoy spending time together, and with friends, and doing the things we love(computers, graphic design, and horses) rather than have to stress about work and kids and school. We're still young and our ideas MIGHT change, but we doubt it as of right now.
     
    12-15-2009, 07:52 PM
  #3
Green Broke
Will definetely be having kids once I get married! I love kids, and hope to go towards working in the education "field".
     
    12-15-2009, 07:54 PM
  #4
Green Broke
A lot of my friends are getting into education, mostly elementary.
     
    12-15-2009, 07:57 PM
  #5
Weanling
I want kids someday, but right now I can't support children. I am not engaged, but my boyfriend and I see ourselves getting married in the future. We both want children, but only once we are settled both financially and emotionally. I will not get divorced once I am married. I refuse...lol.

I want to have a couple kids and adopt some. I think that before I ever have kids I may foster. There is a huge need for foster parents, and I think it is something that people should do more often. I think that it is a perfectly logical thing not to have kids for personal reasons.
     
    12-15-2009, 08:06 PM
  #6
Foal
I think it is really your personal decision. I wouldn't rush and have a kid just for the sake of having one any more than I would go to the store and buy a puppy on an impulse buy. At least you are smart enough to know that you are not in a financial situation to raise a kid, nor do you really have the desire.

My husband and I really want kids(4 at least), but we are waiting until we are financially able to give them every thing they need. We also want to have the farm up and running at that point so I can homeschool my kids until middle school at the earliest.
     
    12-15-2009, 08:08 PM
  #7
Green Broke
irydehorses4lyfe, that sounds pretty much like me too.

My best friend went on the baby track right when we graduated and ow has a 5 month old little girl and had to drop out of college. This is her first boyfriend and though they are engaged they have only been together a year(including the 9 months of baby time!) Now she cannot find a job and childcare so she does not work, he is not in school but working overtime all of the time to take care of the three of them... I think it is sad they just would not wait.

There are only 4 girls in my graduating class(of eighty people) who have not had kids or are pregnant, 4 girls, including me! Some people just start too young and never get a chance to really live like a young couple should IMO.
     
    12-15-2009, 08:15 PM
  #8
Started
I agree with you - I have never, and never will want children.
My entire family has been tellng me "you'll change your mind", but I know I will not. I don't think it is very responsible in today's world to bring more children into it, with the amounts of children going without. If I suddenly decided I wanted to raise one I would adopt, although I doubt I'll want any.
     
    12-15-2009, 08:28 PM
  #9
Green Broke
Where is the "already have too many" option?

I have 4. No I'm not having anymore. I only wanted 2.

But aren't they adorable?

     
    12-15-2009, 08:31 PM
  #10
Green Broke
Quote:
Originally Posted by Carleen    
I agree with you - I have never, and never will want children.
My entire family has been tellng me "you'll change your mind", but I know I will not. I don't think it is very responsible in today's world to bring more children into it, with the amounts of children going without. If I suddenly decided I wanted to raise one I would adopt, although I doubt I'll want any.

That's pretty nice to say on a forum where some members actually do have children.
     

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