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post #21 of 48 Old 03-29-2013, 09:04 AM Thread Starter
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Sorry-I WAS that kid. It built character and back bone. Besides that-it is really rewarding to go back to the class reunion and see the class "stars" and best looking ones fat, bald alcoholics. I loved my 30 yr reunion.

The thing that has really brought bullying to the forefront is the internet. That has really changed it, and THAT is what needs to be dealt with. Not schoolyard games, IMO.

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post #22 of 48 Old 03-29-2013, 09:18 AM
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If they take out dodgeball they need to take out soccer and tether ball. I have nailed myself in the face with a tether ball more times than I would like to admit.
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My boys (and husband) all played rugby and they seem to be OK!!!
They had way more injuries doing stupid stuff like falling out of windows and thinking they could run up walls like Spiderman
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If they take out dodgeball they need to take out soccer and tether ball. I have nailed myself in the face with a tether ball more times than I would like to admit.
You are not alone. I made a few trips to the nurse's office for giving myself a bloody nose with a tetherball. I agree with the soccer, DD has played on a league since she was 3, she absolutely loves it but the first time she wasn't quick enough with her hands and took one hard to the face it was a bit unnerving. Ref stopped the game, went to her, she wiped her bloody nose on his shirt and went right back to the box - didn't let one past her after that. She's also taken one straight to the gut and had the wind knocked out of her. As a parent, it scares the snot out of me sometimes but we let it be her choice and she refuses to take herself out of the game. Makes me a bit proud of my roughy toughy farm girl.

I guess I don't see the big deal about dodge ball. It's a soft ball that gives. The teasing or being picked on should be dealt with by the teacher if kids are being singled out that badly. Dodgeball or no, the kids that are getting picked on would still get picked on, kids don't need a game to accomplish that.

The question of if it were your child, I feel much like busy, I'd tell mine to toughen up and defend herself. Chuck that ball back harder than it was thrown at you. Heck, I'd probably go buy a dodge ball and we'd be practicing. I'd gladly take the potshots and help my kiddo dial in her aim.

I wasn't one of the popular kids in elem school either, I got made fun of big time (mostly because I refused to wear anything but my riding boots and wranglers) and to be honest, it made me stronger and even though it may have hurt then, it sure taught me that people are mean (even into adulthood) and that one has to rise above it, do for yourself and screw what others think about it.

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What if you kid came home bawling because they constantly pick her last. The other kids grown when she put/assigned to their team. Then the call him/her names like "slow sally" or "heifer" in stead of Heather. Then during the game (despite putting up a fair fight) she was targeted by just about everyone else on the team. She/he is targeted and struck out every single game, laughed at and mocked. Now he/she is starting to isolate and stops participating in actives.... You can see how this goes on and on...

There's a difference between giving kids an opportunity to thrive in an organized game where the agenda is to achieve a goal. It makes it hard to really single out one person in softball, swimming and volleyball. The objective of dodge ball is to just hurl balls at kids and it allows ample opportunity for kids to pick on, humiliate and embarrass another child.
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My daughter HAS come home upset about being picked last, about being called names (anything from Ginormica to Fruit Loop). And this is what I tell her, "1. Are the people that say that to you your friends? Do they talk to you everyday, do they listen to what you have to say, are they your REAL friends, or just kids in your class? Your real friends know who you are, who cares what others say. You've said yourself that you're not good at (insert physical game), so what if you're picked last. You are extremely talented in (insert talents). Does that make you less of a person if you're picked last?

2. You are going to get called names, it's life. People will say things just to hurt you, but you know what? That just hurts them more. They are the ones that will be alone and won't have friends because who wants to be friends with someone like that?

I know it hurts, and you're upset, and you can cry on my shoulder all you want. But tell me, do you think you're Ginormica? Her usual response is "no, I like being tall". Do you think you're a fruit loop? Daughter: "kind of, but I like being silly. It makes my friends laugh, and that makes me happy."

What I am trying to teach her, is not to let bad things that happen to her DEFINE who SHE thinks SHE is. It's ok to be hurt by others opinions & actions, but that it's just that, THEIR opinions & actions.

So what if all the balls are thrown at her in dodgeball, if she lets it bother her, they are just going to keep doing it. If she brushes it off and doesn't give them the enjoyment of getting her all worked up, why would they keep doing it? Kids do things to get a reaction out of others, whatever that reaction may be. If they like the reaction, they keep doing it. If they don't they stop.

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Like I said-all three kids were goalies, and not always by choice in the beginning-Soccer and Hockey. They got pucks/balls chucked at them all the time. Made them tougher for sure, as well as quicker, and learn the hard way that words can sting(when they missed a save). I doubt any of them would take back the lessons learned.
Perhaps we need to make playing cards a sport. That seem safe enough?

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You are not alone. I made a few trips to the nurse's office for giving myself a bloody nose with a tetherball. I agree with the soccer, DD has played on a league since she was 3, she absolutely loves it but the first time she wasn't quick enough with her hands and took one hard to the face it was a bit unnerving. Ref stopped the game, went to her, she wiped her bloody nose on his shirt and went right back to the box - didn't let one past her after that. She's also taken one straight to the gut and had the wind knocked out of her. As a parent, it scares the snot out of me sometimes but we let it be her choice and she refuses to take herself out of the game. Makes me a bit proud of my roughy toughy farm girl.

I guess I don't see the big deal about dodge ball. It's a soft ball that gives. The teasing or being picked on should be dealt with by the teacher if kids are being singled out that badly. Dodgeball or no, the kids that are getting picked on would still get picked on, kids don't need a game to accomplish that.

The question of if it were your child, I feel much like busy, I'd tell mine to toughen up and defend herself. Chuck that ball back harder than it was thrown at you. Heck, I'd probably go buy a dodge ball and we'd be practicing. I'd gladly take the potshots and help my kiddo dial in her aim.

I wasn't one of the popular kids in elem school either, I got made fun of big time (mostly because I refused to wear anything but my riding boots and wranglers) and to be honest, it made me stronger and even though it may have hurt then, it sure taught me that people are mean (even into adulthood) and that one has to rise above it, do for yourself and screw what others think about it.
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Does it hurt us as parents when our kids get picked on, OF COURSE!!! But I'm not letting my kid think for a second that if it's not all butterflies & rainbows, it's the end of the world.

People are mean. Plain and simple. Get over it, move on, go with people who aren't.

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Hmm, when I was in school and played this the teachers picked the teams. I never took it personal because I was a large kid, I wasn't fast, but I sure as heck could catch and get out of the way of a dodgeball. Then again we did not have traditional dodgeball's, we had a vinyl "air ball" but had plenty of WHAM! When it hit you.

I always had a blast playing dodgeball and was never disheartened if I was chosen last (when there were times)

Funny thing was I ended up being the last one on my team against this fireball of a kid. I threw the ball, missed, I tucked tail and ran. Turned around just as he threw the ball and caught it. He was out. I kid you not, the room was dead quiet for five seconds before my team roared lol. You probably could've pushed the kid over with a piece of straw.

Coddling is what makes bullying so effective. I'm sure when I have a kid I'll be furious when it happens... But I never was really picked on as a kid, even as fluffy as I was. I was barely 5ft and 185lbs O_O. I believe to a certain extent your character dominates the image over your weight. If you go into this situation with "I'm too fat, they'll never pick me" Kind of attitude, you wear it on your sleeve and give them a target. I guess I was always a confident kid, not sure where it went because I'm stupid self-conscious now :P

I got teased more in baseball(only girl) than I did Dodgeball.

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My daughter is not athletic by any stretch of the imagination. Not even remotely in the same universe!!! She knows that and is fine with that. She gets picked on because 90% of her class is super athletes.

BUT she also knows that what she lacks in athletic ability, she makes up 10 fold in artistic ability. THAT's who she really is, and she's PROUD of that!!!!
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Perhaps we need to make playing cards a sport. That seem safe enough?
Maybe cup stacking? That one is pretty much a guaranteed injury free sport.

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