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post #1 of 19 Old 02-16-2014, 04:33 AM Thread Starter
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Not going to well

I'm not coping right nowand don't really have anyone to talk to.

L moved far away to go to a university that was better and cheaper. I've moved a lot, more than most 23 year Olds. I always move and things worK out, finding housing is Sometimes chalenging with a dog but it always Works. I'm not new to this, but it's never been quite this bad.

Things are going bad though. I've been more or less homeless for a few weeks now and nothing is working. I've looked at houses and found the weirdest and creepiest people. Now Im getting to a distressed state, Uni starts Soon and I am no Closer to findhg Somewhere to live. I have nowhere to go.

There are a couple at options for houses, but l am so reluctant to sign a year lease With someone l don 't feel comfortable with. L don't want to be legally bound to them.

I could go back to another Uni, l was accepted to a few and my offers are still valid, on the mainland... but still going to be in a homeless position. Might be more options then though.

Sorry the writing ls poor-handwriting recognition on my tablet.Just need to vent, hear any advice.
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post #2 of 19 Old 02-16-2014, 08:47 AM
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Don't stay homeless. That is a more basic need than education.

And you know that living with creepy people won't work. You'll never make it through a semester. I will ask what defines "creepy" for you? Dangerous - I, too, would avoid.

Hope it works for you at the university that you prefer to attend. But, if it doesn't, I hope you still go for your education where ever you can.
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post #3 of 19 Old 02-16-2014, 10:04 AM
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Yeah, you're not going to be able to focus on getting your education if you're homeless. That just doesn't work. Having shelter is a basic need. Move where you will be comfortable. If you have to go back to another university, so be it. Your stability and mental health is more important than this or that university.
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post #4 of 19 Old 02-16-2014, 11:08 AM
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Saskia, I've raised two daughters and I'll tell you what I'd tell them..

Come home.

For we wrestle not against flesh and blood, but against principalities, against powers, against the rulers of the darkness of this world, against spiritual wickedness in high places.
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post #5 of 19 Old 02-16-2014, 11:27 AM
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I wish I had some great resource to share with you, as this sounds just awful!

Have you checked with the university for resources? Housing may be an issue for them and they may have solutions.
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post #6 of 19 Old 02-16-2014, 09:30 PM
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Gunslinger,
What a great dad. I can feel the love for your daughters in your post. And I agree, can you go home until you are on your feet?

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post #7 of 19 Old 02-16-2014, 10:06 PM Thread Starter
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Saskia, I've raised two daughters and I'll tell you what I'd tell them..

Come home.
I wish this was an option but I don't have a family home or anything like it, and while I could stay a couple days with either parent, nothing long term with any family.

I think I have sorted something out. There is one place that I've been approved for. It's with an 18 year old girl . I'm a bit concerned as I am not sure if it will turn out a good living situation, no idea if she's reliable or responsible or anything like that... but it's really my only option at this stage. Extremely cautious, but going ahead.

Going to another Uni might help the situation for finding housing, but it won't solve it, as I'll still have nowhere to go! Everything is going to be okay though, it has to work out in the end.

And I've met some strange people looking for a house, creepy old men only looking for female uni students, a woman with hundreds of golliwogs, weird women in places with cat urine where you could hear neighbours screaming at each other and it was a really bad area.

But everything will get better :)
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post #8 of 19 Old 02-16-2014, 11:43 PM
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I'm glad things are looking up for you.
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post #9 of 19 Old 02-16-2014, 11:54 PM
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Hope the new place turns out okay. I hope they let you have your dog too. We all need our furry friends, they make life easier.
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post #10 of 19 Old 02-17-2014, 03:43 AM
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Not that it does much, but my thoughts are with you.
Are you sure you've found all the local resources for tracking down rentals too? I know in my town we have a website that most people post their ads on that is only known by the locals, for example.
Are you calling people who have a 'no pets' stipulation and asking anyways? Perhaps they could be swayed with a pet deposit if that is allowed/used in your area. This particular strategy has never worked for me, but a couple of my acquaintances have had luck this way.
Are there any unconventional rental routes you could take? Perhaps a friend of a friend type of thing?
And always, always, always trust your gut instinct. It is there for a reason. If someone doesn't seem like a suitable person to live with, and you think you'd be made uncomfortable or put in danger, don't do it. I'm sure you know that already but I really do want to re-affirm that.
I hope you're able to find a place to live near your preferred school; however, why not put out some feelers near the other schools to see if you can find suitable housing more easily? That can't hurt and provides you with a backup plan.
Where have you been staying as of late? Somewhere safe I hope?

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