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    01-04-2012, 02:35 PM
  #11
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Originally Posted by Speed Racer    
I didn't mean to imply you sounded ungrateful or whiny, because you don't. Just tried to give you some justification for why your folks feel the way they do.

My parents have never understood the horse thing, and for many years thought it was just a phase. 33 years after buying my first horse, I'm pretty sure it's not just a phase!

They never did 'get it', and even all these years later my mother will still ask me, 'So, when are you going to get tired of those horses and start living a normal life?' Um, when they pry the reins out of my cold, dead hands?

Boy does this hit home! My dad loved horses, used to train them back when dinosaurs walked the earth......but mom-even after all these years-up until she was too senile to know my name, actually, she was STILL asking me the same thing....along with "are you still married to.....HIM?"

And, DH has actually asked when I might stop riding, and my answer was the same as yours.

That said-I was fortunate enough to have horses growing up, BUT, mom made life miserable and complained the whole time. So, which is worse-not sure. Finally I can happily afford to have them without anyone questioning.

They are a privilege, not a right. That is true at any age, no matter who is paying the bills.
     
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    01-04-2012, 02:40 PM
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if you were to lose interest in a horse, or CARING for the horse...as a minor, that responsibility falls back ON YOUR PARENTS. Well geez...what if they don't want that responsibility?
True true, forgot how my dad is easily worried. He has had so many troubles in his life, that anything that might give him a headache (even if it also gives him pleasure, he doesn't want) He told me this a long time ago, it's the reason why he says he'd never ever buy a boat or a dog. Too much headache. I understand a little more now. He doesn't think now I'll grow out of it, but if the horse get's sick and big vet bills come (even if he can pay for them), I could just see him not sleeping for a week. WWuld be my typical daddy. :)

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I didn't mean to imply you sounded ungrateful or whiny, because you don't. Just tried to give you some justification for why your folks feel the way they do.

I know that. Just wanted to make sure others didn't think this was more of a rant and I thought my parents owed me a beautiful, cash eating pony if ever they hit the jackpot.
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    01-04-2012, 02:46 PM
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They never did 'get it', and even all these years later my mother will still ask me, 'So, when are you going to get tired of those horses and start living a normal life?' Um, when they pry the reins out of my cold, dead hands?
Lol, agreed! When my dad told me I should just rid 2 times a year (just for a bit of pleasure) and move on, I told him I'd do so when I was tired, pregnant and swollen or occupied with raising my newborn. Then of course once I get back in shape and have more time I'd go back to riding regularly. ;)
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    01-04-2012, 02:59 PM
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Anyway, I get that frustration. I mean the part about the family not having a clue how big a part horses play in your very being. They simply don't get it.
Argh! How could anyone not love horses? (that's what I am thinking when I have those special moments with Mac's head resting near me and we are just "together" and he smells good, and we had a good ride and he's this magnificent being . . And . . .)
Since my dad spends almost just as much time at the barn as I do, he understands more now than then, but ya, definitely doesn't completely get a horse lover's passion. ;)
     
    01-04-2012, 03:02 PM
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My friends daughter (in her 20th already!) gets everything she wants even though they have no money to afford lots of things, and she thinks it's OK. Sometime I wonder where all these "give, give, give" is coming from....
Ya I knwo what you mean. I go to school with a girl like that.
The bad thing about it all is that she brags about everything. :roll:
     
    01-04-2012, 04:47 PM
  #16
Yearling
The way I got my first horse was I just bought one and told my parents I needed to find a place to keep her. They were surprised (I was 16) but didn't tell me no, just found me a field to rent.

I think it is easier with your parents to tell you no, than it is to here them tell you they'll buy you a horse.

I spent five years thinking my dad would finally buy me the horse he promised every time I seen him. He would say how he'll help me get a horse and keep it because he knew how much I loved them. Every year I hoped and felt awful when it never happened. He said that up the day he bought my non horse step mother a horse, I'll admit I cried my heart out, the horse was a beautiful young and extremely well trained horse not the $300 give away from down the road. Of course when my mare died he again promised to help me buy another horse when the time came, but he bought himself a colt and wouldn't help me when I found one.

Easy for them to say no, than to make promises they'll never keep.
     
    01-04-2012, 06:08 PM
  #17
Green Broke
Hldalgo I wish I had been fortunate enough to have lessons when I was younger. My family simply could not afford it, and I knew better then to even ask.

I did come up with many detailed plans on how I could have a horse, and once even presented the plan to my dad. Bless his heart, he listened intently to all I put forth, and then when I was done, complimented me on my well thought out plan. Then told me .............no.

It was for the best, though I didn't see it that way, and I know the stricken look on my face must have cut him like a knife.

He is my biggest fan, and loves to watch me work my horses and has a keen eye.

We , when younger, don't have a broad view on all the variables that life can so quickly throw at us. It's when we get older, and have so many responsibilities that we then can look back and understand where our parents were coming from, most times anyway.

Enjoy the time with your dad at the barn, I'm amazed he doesn't complain about it and I think perhaps he cherishes this time with you. A father knows that eventually some one else will come along and he will not be the "man" in your life anymore. Though I have to say, I am a daddys girl and **** proud of it, even at my age!
     
    01-04-2012, 06:10 PM
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I'm sorry to hear that happened to you cruiser. :( I cannot get over why your dad bought your non horsy step mom a horse! Did she at least learn to ride?
     
    01-04-2012, 06:23 PM
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Yearling
She had rode the horse a couple lessons before he bought the horse, but other than that had no idea about any thing, horse related. She only had a handful of lessons after that, was only starting to trot.

Just saying it is easier to hear, no you can't have a horse. Than have empty promises from someone you really want to believe.
     
    01-04-2012, 06:24 PM
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The bad thing about it all is that she brags about everything. :roll:
Hey, I find this to be a funny thing though. Shows how stupid the person is.
     

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