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        11-17-2009, 06:31 PM
      #21
    Trained
    Yeah sure why not.... but I think along with people being 'nicer', others need to stop being so reactive and taking things badly!! I know I've posted a few times in threads trying to help with what I know and what has worked for me, only to get snapped at for 'criticising' or similar. Settle down people, it's the internet, take advice or leave it, don't have a cry because someone gives you a suggestion that you don't neccesarily like ;)
         
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        11-17-2009, 06:47 PM
      #22
    Weanling
    {jumps up and down} I will join. I hate wondering if someone is going to jump down my throat for my opinion. I try to keep things nice, but I know that I can be rude sometimes. I will try to keep it in mind. I have no issues on the cussing part. I try to keep anything I post clean. (although I choose sarcasm instead)
         
        11-17-2009, 06:57 PM
      #23
    Foal
    I think this is just wonderful that we can all agree to disagree without being disagreeable about it I'm in an as for the foul language we all know what you want to say {i think} why spell it out? No more four letter words for me GRRRRR
         
        11-17-2009, 07:19 PM
      #24
    Showing
    Smile

    Quote:
    Originally Posted by JustDressageIt    
    I don't know about anyone else on the boards here, but I for one have noticed quite a bit of profanity and (for lack of a better word) mean-ness on here lately between members.
    I know that I've been a bit on edge.. the days are getting shorter (it's pitch black here by 6pm now!), and due to my own injured status, I'm not getting out and about nearly as much as I should be or want to be.
    I'm sure others have similar stories of stress!!
    This is just a friendly post asking us to find our true HorseForum unity and perhaps just take an extra moment or two to think before we post. I know that I for one see red and post without thinking sometimes, and regret it not too long after because I realize '... hey... it's the internet.. why am I getting so worked up?' but usually it's too far past the time to edit.
    So, I would like to take this time to kind of re-invent my posting self, and resolve to try and be a bit nicer in the way I say things.
    Anyone care to join me?

    You know you are right. I realized that when I went thru my last hip surgery and I spent my day glued to the forums. There is a lot of anger on here and most posters post directly the first things that comes to mind.

    I find being positive and being complimentive goes a lot further and as the saying goes regardless of how frustrating things go, "if you don't have anything nice to say, don't post it".

    I think simply not answering a thread or only posting a kind comment without directly answering a thread that you know you don't agree with, is a lot better. Posters/Forumers never take negative advice or comments into practice EVEN if its advice they asked for in the first place, so why even post it in the first place.

    I agree, everyone needs to rethink their posting style and revamp how they want to word things. This site as a lot of absolutely fantastic people and some great advice and ideas and we're all going to take advantage of it if we take more care of each other.
         
        11-17-2009, 08:03 PM
      #25
    Super Moderator
    I'll join! =D
    I try my hardest to be nice but sometimes my hardest isn't enough. Haha

    That was a great idea to post this JDI!
         
        11-17-2009, 08:12 PM
      #26
    Showing
    Thank you :)
    All I am asking is for members to think twice about what they're posting, and be courteous to each other. This is an awesome community and I just want us all to make it even better. We don't want posters to be worried about their questions, we want to encourage healthy discussion of topics and really encourage respect.
    You guys are all awesome!!
         
        11-17-2009, 08:37 PM
      #27
    Showing
    I don't want to put a cork in the warm and fuzzy's but unfortunately many of the types who enjoy troll posting won't agree to this or won't even read it. I used to believe all people are basically good. I still like to think so, but sorry to say there are those that enjoy being mean.
    Maybe if we agree to ignore them they will go away or at least post less.
    I know I have gotten my feelings hurt here many times and have been brought to tears by total strangers. That's not right. Fortunately I'm committed to this community and there are enough truly sincere, friendly people here to make it worthwhile.
         
        11-18-2009, 01:50 AM
      #28
    Trained
    I've decided that I will avoid the horse forum COMPLETELY when I'm in "one of those moods!"

    I've said it before, but it hasn't stopped me and some poor inoccent, and some not so much bystanders have gotten the gruff of my bad moods. There will always be certian members, topics, threads that just irk me but I will attempt to avoid those.
         
        11-18-2009, 02:08 AM
      #29
    Started
    I'll join - I am so guilty of this.

    I have always prided myself in the way I choose to express myself, but I find myself getting more and more accusatory and snarky as of late.

    I think some of us perhaps still have a bitter taste in our mouth from past experiences with individuals who would not listen to niceness. I think we are jumping to conclusions that niceness just won't get our point across - but more often than not, here anyway, it does.

    I really do think of you guys as my "internet family" [not a creeper, I swear!] and I think we all need to make an effort to be closer and respect one another.

    As Beck so eloquently puts it, "Everybody's gotta learn sometime..." We need to understand that questions, more often than not, do not stem from ignorance, but from a desire to learn. We need to know the difference between critique and rudeness; between debate and fighting; between expressing oneself and infringing on another's right to do the same.

    I need to watch myself, and I am going to need a reminder every now and then!

    :]

    Great thread, JDI.
         
        11-18-2009, 02:15 AM
      #30
    Super Moderator
    Quote:
    Originally Posted by LeahKathleen    
    I'll join - I am so guilty of this.

    I have always prided myself in the way I choose to express myself, but I find myself getting more and more accusatory and snarky as of late.

    I think some of us perhaps still have a bitter taste in our mouth from past experiences with individuals who would not listen to niceness. I think we are jumping to conclusions that niceness just won't get our point across - but more often than not, here anyway, it does.

    I really do think of you guys as my "internet family" [not a creeper, I swear!] and I think we all need to make an effort to be closer and respect one another.

    As Beck so eloquently puts it, "Everybody's gotta learn sometime..." We need to understand that questions, more often than not, do not stem from ignorance, but from a desire to learn. We need to know the difference between critique and rudeness; between debate and fighting; between expressing oneself and infringing on another's right to do the same.

    I need to watch myself, and I am going to need a reminder every now and then!

    :]

    Great thread, JDI.
    LeahKathleen just put my feelings into words. Great post! =)
         

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