We were dating about 2 years before we got engaged, and married about a year after that. Saying this, it was a bit of a different situation than most will face as I was here on a work permit and at the time getting more than 2 years was unheard of... so we had to bite the bullet and decide what we wanted to do.
To be honest, I wouldn't ever get married again. IMO, all it is, is an expensive day out and a piece of paper that complicates things should it not work out. I love my husband and my family, but now that I'm a bit older I now have a different outlook on things.
Stop for a minute, open your mind, learn. You may not agree with what I say, I may not agree with what you say but we will both learn something new.