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View Poll Results: How long were you dating before you got engaged?
less then 1 year 22 37.29%
1-2 years 15 25.42%
2-3 years 6 10.17%
3-4 years 4 6.78%
4-5 years 3 5.08%
5-6 years 1 1.69%
6-7 years 3 5.08%
7-8 years 3 5.08%
8-9 years 0 0%
more then 9 years-please comment how long 2 3.39%
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post #21 of 46 Old 03-17-2013, 07:23 PM
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I'm not actually sure how long we dated. We met, he found out I was too young and dropped me like a hot potato. We met again years later, dated for a couple of months (? - definitely much less than a year). That time I took off. Then he called me up a few years after that and it was the kicker. Married within about 4 months I'd say.

If you're looking for marriage and you have 8 years, a child and a house under your belts, I'd say marriage isn't too likely, but is that maybe only because it's not high enough on either of your priority lists? Do you have a commitment? Is that enough? If so, great. If not, talk.
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post #22 of 46 Old 03-17-2013, 07:30 PM
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First got to know my husband in Oct '89.
We started dating in 'Oct '09
We got engaged in Oct '91
Got married in May '92

The girls came March '03. Yep...I was in no rush to have kids whatsoever.
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post #23 of 46 Old 03-17-2013, 07:39 PM
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Met hubby in Oct 1975, got engaged February 1976 and we were married September 24th of 1976. We will celebrate our 37th anniversary this year.

After 8 years of living together you may need to address this subject to him again in a manner that lets him know you really want this.
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post #24 of 46 Old 03-17-2013, 08:37 PM
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Mrs. Face and I met in January of 1975. She was a Geophysicist and worked for me at Chevron Geophysical, and then at Compagnie Generale de Geophysique, both in Houston. I was married at the time, but we traveled together a lot (no hanky panky) because her volleyball tournaments were sometimes held in the same towns as my tennis tournaments, so we got to be pretty good friends. The day after my divorce in February of 1979, she came to my place to console me and cook me dinner. She never went home...we were married in July of 1980 because I had to wait a year for an annulment of my first marriage from the Vatican.

This was us almost 34 years ago...I was almost 32 and she had just turned 26. I still look the same, but she has aged a lot...

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post #25 of 46 Old 03-17-2013, 08:56 PM
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Met hubby Sept 2003. Engaged Feb 2004. Got married May 2005
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post #26 of 46 Old 03-17-2013, 09:45 PM
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We started dating in Oct of '04, engaged July of '05, married April '06.
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post #27 of 46 Old 03-18-2013, 02:15 AM
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Hmmm. I am jealous of the people that knew their "better half" since childhood. I think that would be awesome. We were married in less than 9 months after having met. DH was the first person I dated that wasn't interested in horses. I am not sure what that has to do w anything, other than a "few" felt this meant the deck was stacked against us. Well, almost 20 years later we are still married.

For all intents and purposes the OP is married. But, for whatever reason I just can't really imagine dating someone for years on end before marrying. I suppose that is b/c the only reason I can think of for doing so personally is if I could only tolerate the other person's company in small doses.

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post #28 of 46 Old 03-18-2013, 09:31 AM
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I and the more handsome half got engaged approximately after 1½ years of dating and 2mo after moving in together.

"On hyviä vuosia, kauniita muistoja, mutta kuitenkaan, en saata unohtaa,
Että koskaan en ole yksin, varjo seuraa onneain.
Vaikka myrsky hetkeksi tyyntyykin, varjo seuraa onneain.
Ja pian taas uusin hönkäyksin, varjo seuraa onneain.
Hei tuu mun luo, pieneksi hetkeksi. Puhutaan, varjoni, valkoiseksi enkeliksi."

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post #29 of 46 Old 03-20-2013, 08:57 AM Thread Starter
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I'm really surprised how many people were engaged(or married) before even a year of dating, I guess it wouldn't have been too far off if we had gotten married when I found out I was pregnant, we were together 1 year and 4 months at that point. A "cousin" of mine(my dad's second wife's neice, he's now divorced but still close with her) I detest the girl, but that's another story. She got pregnant after being with a guy for 4 months and then got married. I had a point to go with that, but I'm sick and now I can't remember lol.
My one friend, Anthony and I went to her first wedding(she got married when out son was a month old). We had been together longer then her and her fiance. She got divorced and back in August we attended her second wedding, She only married him because they had a baby together. She loves him, but she had a lot of second thoughts about marrying him and I think she should have waited. I love my friend dearly, I've known her for about 6/7 years and I just want her to be happy and there were some major warning bells going off and sometimes I really worry about her.
IDK maybe I'm hesitant about marriage too, seems like so many people get divorced, if I never get married I can't get divorced. BUT then again, I already have my wedding dress picked out(and have for years) so what does that tell you
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post #30 of 46 Old 03-20-2013, 09:03 AM
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We met in August of '07. Started dating April '08. Engaged July '10. Married October '12.

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