Prayers coming your way.....and **HUGS**. First, after being married for over 30 years, this is the kind of thing your fiance should help you get through. You two are supposed to be a team, and you guys should weather the storms together as well as celebrate the victories together.
THe others are right. Strokes are not a certain death sentence. I doubt, from what you said about gram paw bringing you the sick puppies to nurse back.....that he would want you to think of it this way. Now it is HE who needs you, not the puppy. Please do not waste time beating yourself up over him not being found. That is not on you, altho, I know that is easy to say......you need to stay positive and help him keep a good attitude. Yes, that may be tough, but a positive attitude really does help! That does not mean you don't cry or show emotion.....shoot, I have cried with patients, families, relatives, and the lot. (I am a nurse) I recently cried with my husband when he was diagnosed with a debilitating disease. But, then, we stop crying and move forward=together.
Hugs-and keep us posted on how things are going. Grampaw will probably be ging to a rehab facility, I would think......and there will be exercises you can help with.
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