A Question of Stubbornness & Gut Feelings
So, basically I'm being dragged to a wedding on September 1st. The groom is my fiancée's cousin who he does not have much contact with.
We are being forced to take the 3 hour drive with my fiancée's parents, and older brother. Our only vehicle is an older pick up, so it's less than stellar on gas, and we can't take the bus because of our 8 month old puppy that we have to bring along with us.
We're staying the night before at his parent's place (I'll be heavily drugged, I hope) and the night after the wedding at a relative's house closer to the location of the wedding, and coming home the next morning. So the plan was to bring the dog along in the car with us (we've already taken him on some fairly long car rides - up to 2.5 hours each way - so he's very good in the car, no mess, no barking or carrying on, etc). We have a crate to keep the dog in for the 4 hours we'll be gone at the wedding & reception. We've got large containers to bring food and water on the ride, and have plenty of containers to store the food needed for the duration of the rest of the trip.
However, my fiancée's parents called me today, informing me that we would have to make the 1 hour drive up to their house and back sometime before the wedding to view the boarding facility that they found, and expect us to pay for, so that we can leave the dog behind. Saying that "this is what we're going to do". No ifs, ands, or buts about it.
Needless to say I was shocked and angry that they took it upon themselves to tell me what I'm going to do with my dog, when we had already explained, and agreed to the original plan with them.
Now, it's not just the fact that they're trying to tell me what to do that's making me dig my heels in (and that is a very strong driving factor), it's the fact that I:
1. Don't feel comfortable leaving my dog behind because he is still fairly young, and I like to have the predominant role in my dog's care and daily life, and also have very little faith in the owners of the facility.
2. Don't want to have to pay the price that the place has listed, with an additional fee on top of that because our dog is not yet fixed (which is practical, and very responsible of the facility, however I don't want to spend the money).
3. Don't want to allow his parents to strong arm us into anything else, as they do this sort of thing all the time and I feel like I need to stand up to them and finally not allow them to always have their way.
They way they've described the place is also not helping. "Ma & Pa's" is the name of the place, and if that wasn't sketchy enough, they live in the middle of nowhere, literally at the very tip of a dead end road. They said there's a place for the dogs to watch tv (ummm, what dog watches tv? mine pesters me while I try to watch re-runs of Friends on my laptop for goodness sake), and a half acre for up to 8 dogs.
What's even worse, is if we do end up leaving him there, the boarding place is located wayyyyy up at his parent's place. So we would have to drive all the way up there before coming home, which of course would prompt them to insist we stay with them another night. And that would cause me to have to get many more years of therapy, more than I'll already need from my past exposures to them.
I have a very bad feeling about this place, I've seen pictures and it looks dumpy, and run down. It's run by two seniors, who I very much doubt can keep up with my 8 month old boarder collie cross. And if he's left to his own devices, he'll tear the place down. I also don't want him to -god forbid- get away, because he is not micro-chipped yet (that'll be happening with the neutering, appointment pending, thank god!), and I would be heart broken if I lost my dog.
So I don't know what to do, am I just being stubborn? Or should I stick to my guns and go with my gut?
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