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        07-25-2012, 10:18 AM
      #21
    Trained
    You hang in there. If this is real love, it will survive this. Don't be angry with your parents. I am sure that they are just acting in what they feel is your best interest. You will grow up. This will pass.

    BTW, I am so glad that my parents didn't allow me to get too involved with the boy that I thought I was in love with at 17. He didn't turn out so good..........
         
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        07-25-2012, 11:16 AM
      #22
    Started
    I am a gramma and my oldest granddaughter is almost 14.. I dread the day she is ready to date. LOL

    I really wouldn't suggest doing anything different. He is helping out and they do know it even tho they may not be able to voice it. That is their hangup. Some people just cannot show appreciation. The fact that they do pick him up and allow him to stay over is a nice plus for the two of you. It is unfortunate you feel they don't trust you at all. If people are lying about you that makes it very rough on you too. Hang in there, be the good daughter and don't worry about what your sister does or does not do. That is her problem. I know that is hard to take, but it's how it is. Kill her with kindness, it really confuses them. ;)
         
        07-25-2012, 11:31 AM
      #23
    Weanling
    Thanks (:
    We are both understanding that it will probobly be like this for the next two years, and we're willing to wait it out as our relationship is serious, and we plan to be together a long time.

    I talked to him this morning before he went to work, and I let him know that he should just ignore any rude comments, but I don't think getting him to help less is going to work much as he said he mostly does it so he can keep an eye on me, along with helping. As he doesn't trust my parents to make sure I'm doing alright. (Like I said, I have a lot of health problems..)

    The main reason I wish they would change how strict they are is that I don't want to be one of those kids that constantly say they want to be older, because I don't want to be older yet. I'm still a kid for 2 more years, but I don't really want to be if I can't enjoy it, if that makes any sense..
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        07-25-2012, 12:36 PM
      #24
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    Val: I may do this.. I just get extremely uncomfortable during confrontations because I can either not say anything, or if I start to say something I get really heated and start yelling, which I don't like doing because it only gets me in more trouble.
    Count to 10 every time you feel like you are about to scream. Really helps! :)

    Yeah, 40 miles is quite a bit of a drive. Hopefully your boy will buy own car (simplify life a lot!). In any case good luck with your situation!
         
        07-25-2012, 04:15 PM
      #25
    Started
    Sounds like you have a good head on your shoulders as does your boyfriend. Hang in there.
         
        07-25-2012, 04:40 PM
      #26
    Foal
    When he turns 18 it doesn't matter that you were already dating. Had a prosecutor say something about a case he was working on that says it all," 17 will get you 20". He was talking about a guy who was dating a 17 year old girl while he was 18. They had sex and girls Dad found out. He pressed charges and the guy ended up in jail even though they had been dating for a year. So, let the rules stand as far as going out because you are still young and your parents are worried about you. They may not show it in the best way, but they are trying the best they know how to protect you. A couple years are not that long in the grand scheme of things.

    It is nice that he cares for you and looks out for you, but you need time to grow up. There is nothing you can do about your sister not helping. You can however look out for yourself and you own health. Not sure what those issues are, but you need to do all you can to protect yourself so you can remain healthy.
         
        07-26-2012, 04:09 AM
      #27
    Green Broke
    Personaly, (and probably because I'm a stubborn, oppinionated, independant woman who wont take crap from anyone) i'd be turning round and having it out with them.

    You obviously feel that they don't trust you, they obviously play favorites and you don't feel that you can go to them with anything (my mother is a known as the big bad wolf but I could always go to her with anything). Point this out to them and as soon as you are old enough I would move out and cut off contact (and I would let them know that is what you plan to do). It may just make them sit back and look at thier actions.

    In the UK the legal age of consent is 16 (it is also the age at which you can leave school and leave home) so unlike others I don't believe you are to young (but obviously stay within the law where you are!)
         
        07-26-2012, 07:12 AM
      #28
    Weanling
    Faye; That is what I wanted to do, as I honestly want to leave her as soon as I can if things stay the same. But, there is a problem with that. They are paying for my college, and if I go and cut off contact like that, there is no way I could go.

    At one point, and I know a lot of you are going to think we're immature for this but you would have to be in my exact situation to completely understand, Garrett and I wanted to find a way for them to kick me out. Which wouldn't be hard. So that I could move in with him. But we thought about the cons of that and there is no way.
    Even though his parents welcome me there, they couldn't afford a 1500+ regular medical bill for me and I would never get to go to college.

    Thanks again for everyone's replies!
         
        07-26-2012, 09:21 AM
      #29
    Trained
    You are making a very mature decision. Love is said to overcome all, but it does not pay medical bills, rent, food, clothing, and such.

    I think that all women should establish their own life and become financially able to make it on their own before moving in with a man. Otherwise, you just go from financial dependence (and the rules and control that go with that dependence) on your parents to financial dependence on a man. Then you have to follow his rules. If each young person has their own plan in place, then the two can unite as equals.
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