08-27-2012, 07:41 PM
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Here's a thought that I had in response to the other thread.
I was thinking about how on earth people could have that opinion that victims of rape that do not "avoid" rape then they "bring it on themselves" or however you word it. That they are somehow responsible and should have dressed differently/not had a drink out/not looked sideways at the guy at the other end of the room etc. I began thinking about what in society could be attributed to this culture of blaming the victim.
At first I started thinking it was the whole "the real victim is the perp" mentality that some people believe the justice system has. Maybe this was rubbing off on people without them realising? Then I remembered that none of the people who thought rape was avoidable said anything even remotely pitying about rapists. I think that rape would have to be one crime that pretty much everyone finds unforgivable, so it can't be that.
Then I had a thought. What about the "right to defend" mentality? Sometimes it seems to me that people will think of "defense" as what it is - defending yourself in a situation when you need it - and others will think of it as a more "offensive" manner - and then think that anyone else that doesn't actively take measures to protect themselves against a potential rapist well before the rape occurs is not defending themselves at all.
As said many, many times in the previous thread, a person should be able to walk down the street at 3am without a stitch on, with no fear of any sexual attack. You should be able to wear what you want, drink what you want, go where you want. Blaming a victim who does those things is senseless. The ONLY reason rape occurs is because a sick, twisted individual makes the choice to assault someone in the most degrading way possible.
Another analogy for your reading pleasure. If I owned a lolly shop, and had a window display of all my delicious goodies... would it be OK for someone to break in and steal my goods? After all, I did put them out so publicly, I did pick a store in a not so amazing location....