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post #1 of 17 Old 02-14-2013, 08:06 AM Thread Starter
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Saying "Goodbye" to loved ones

It has been a horrible few weeks. My father who had a stroke in July was diagnosed with brain tumors and 3 other areas of cancer. He had started falling in November and it was getting worse and worse. The cancer moved quickly making him so week he couldn't stand on his own. On Friday, we brought him home to his house and stayed with him while he passed on. It was the hardest thing I have ever had to do. I miss him so much and today I am expected to stand there at his funeral and say "goodbye" to him officially. I can hardly breath.

I pray that he is in a better place, that he no longer feels any pain, that he can run and jump and swim and do all the things he hasn't been able to do for the past 30 or so years that he was so disabled. If any of you pray, please say a prayer for my father and my family during this difficult time.

I have already had to say goodbye to my grandma, my grandfather and a good friend in a little over the last year. This is simply too much. I am feeling so very alone.

I got my love of animals from my father and he was the one who helped me in hauling my horses. He was my rock.
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post #2 of 17 Old 02-14-2013, 08:09 AM
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Prayers to you & yours. So sorry for your losses.
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Hugs and prayers for you and your Dad
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My sympathy to you and all who loved and will miss your dad. Hard times.

You say your dad was your "rock." I'd bet he raised you to be very competent by example. Doesn't mean you won't miss him and all the others you've lost, but you will be able to function because of what you learned in your time with him.

I hope as time goes on you find those empty places inside filled with good, albeit different, people. The world is full of them.
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My deepest, most sincere condolences.
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I am so sorry for your loss. Prayers for you and yours.
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So very sorry; you will be in my thoughts and prayers.
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post #8 of 17 Old 02-14-2013, 09:38 AM
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I am so sorry for your loss I will be praying for your father as well as praying for you and your family.

Remember that while your father may not be here physically he will always remain with you as your own Angel and he will be watching over you.
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Thank you all so very much. All of the prayers are appreciated more than I can say. My dad was nervous about dying, he didn't want to. He thought he had more time here. Don't we all? I feel so thankful for the past 6 months that I had with him. I believe that they were a gift from God as well. My dad had a massive stroke in July and he had zero speech or movement in his right side. The doctors didn't think he would recover as well as he did. He was able to talk to us and was able to walk with help until the tumors showed up and made him constantly dizzy. Also, the tumors could have caused seizures and they didn't. I believe that prayers WERE answered, maybe just not to the extent that I had hoped. In the end, I prayed that he wouldn't suffer long, and God took him. I am so thankful for that as well. It is impossible to say goodbye but it sure beats watching one that you love suffer. I am so blessed to be able to have been the person to say the last words to him. I whispered in his ear that I would miss him, that I loved him and that it was time for him to go and that his mother would be waiting for him. He abruptly opened his eyes and looked at me. He then closed them again and it was a very short time later he took his last breath. Thank God for meds so that he didn't have to lay there in pain. Once he died, he looked so peaceful, like he was sleeping. That hurt so much but I was happy that he was at peace.
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Your right....this is a hard thing to come to grips with. It's been 20 years this year that I lost my dad. He was much the same as yours except he wanted to go but god wouldn't take him until he was ready for him.

Nothing of this world last. Even the highest mountains eventually will be nothing more than a grain of sand.

Because nothing of this world lasts, we have to come to expect these things from our worldly possessions be it family, friends, horses etc.

Find joy in having him and for the time you were given. Know also, one day you'll join him.

Thus the importance of living in the spirit and not being bound to the things of the world.

From the book of Job....14th chapter.

14 Man that is born of a woman is of few days and full of trouble.
2 He cometh forth like a flower, and is cut down: he fleeth also as a shadow, and continueth not.
3 And doth thou open thine eyes upon such an one, and bringest me into judgment with thee?
4 Who can bring a clean thing out of an unclean? not one.
5 Seeing his days are determined, the number of his months are with thee, thou hast appointed his bounds that he cannot pass;
6 Turn from him, that he may rest, till he shall accomplish, as an hireling, his day.
7 For there is hope of a tree, if it be cut down, that it will sprout again, and that the tender branch thereof will not cease.
8 Though the root thereof wax old in the earth, and the stock thereof die in the ground;
9 Yet through the scent of water it will bud, and bring forth boughs like a plant.
10 But man dieth, and wasteth away: yea, man giveth up the ghost, and where is he?
11 As the waters fail from the sea, and the flood decayeth and drieth up:
12 So man lieth down, and riseth not: till the heavens be no more, they shall not awake, nor be raised out of their sleep.
13 O that thou wouldest hide me in the grave, that thou wouldest keep me secret, until thy wrath be past, that thou wouldest appoint me a set time, and remember me!
14 If a man die, shall he live again? all the days of my appointed time will I wait, till my change come.
15 Thou shalt call, and I will answer thee: thou wilt have a desire to the work of thine hands.
16 For now thou numberest my steps: dost thou not watch over my sin?
17 My transgression is sealed up in a bag, and thou sewest up mine iniquity.
18 And surely the mountains falling cometh to nought, and the rock is removed out of his place.
19 The waters wear the stones: thou washest away the things which grow out of the dust of the earth; and thou destroyest the hope of man.
20 Thou prevailest for ever against him, and he passeth: thou changest his countenance, and sendest him away.
21 His sons come to honour, and he knoweth it not; and they are brought low, but he perceiveth it not of them.
22 But his flesh upon him shall have pain, and his soul within him shall mourn.

For we wrestle not against flesh and blood, but against principalities, against powers, against the rulers of the darkness of this world, against spiritual wickedness in high places.
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