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        02-14-2013, 12:56 PM
      #11
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    So sorry for your loss. He will live on in your memories and when the pain of the loss eases he will always be close and you can think of all the happy times
    Its my greatest hope that there is something after this life where all the wretchedness and bad stuff doesnt exist..................
         
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        02-14-2013, 01:08 PM
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    Inga,

    Thank you for sharing your last moments with your dad with us. Your description brought tears to my eyes. My father is very old. I hope that when his time comes that I have the deep honor to do as you did, by his side, whispering in his ear.
         
        02-14-2013, 02:52 PM
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    My sympathies to you and yours.

    My Father died nearly three years ago. He was 92 and up until he had what was mis diagnosed as a stroke, he had been remarkably fit and healthy. (He had been shopping for others younger than him but less able and delivering newspapers the day before)
    He was in hospital for three months and only after he had a grand mal was it found that he had a brain tumour.
    I was relieved at his passing, for my mother, sister or I to want him to stay would have been selfish.
    I am sure that he is still around, I talk to him often, I miss him and his ways. I guess I always will.
         
        02-14-2013, 03:05 PM
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    Inga, I am so so sorry.

    My Mom will be dead 10 years this summer, I still miss her terribly but know she is better off wherever she is now, but it took me an awful long time to feel that one - it doesnt stop me sometimes having a meltdown and wish she were still here with me though.

    My thoughts are with you and your family, and all the best for today - please don't feel obligated to act or grieve a certain way, you don't need to be a "rock", you will get through this in your own way.
         
        02-14-2013, 09:20 PM
      #15
    Yearling
    I appreciate all of your kind words and prayers more then you can ever know. I loved my dad, was close to my dad and will miss him so much. He was indeed, the patriarch of our family. 7 kids in our family and we all loved him very much. Tonight after the funeral we got together to eat and had several toasts in his honor. It was a good night filled with happy memories. On the way home, I cried again as I know that I will continue to do as I miss him. The memories are wonderful and precious but... the pain is big right now.

    I as a Christian do find peace in knowing (hoping) I will see him again one day. I pray that when I meet my maker he says "job well done" and welcomes me home. Not sure that I am ready to go now but... we don't get to chose that. The funeral was lovely and the military honors that were bestowed upon him were hard to be there for. Is there anything more haunting then taps and a 21 gun solute? The formality of the flag folding and the slow deliberate actions of the soldiers doing it bring tears to anyones eyes. I am happy for my father as I KNOW he is in a better place. He was a good man and loved and was loved.
         
        02-16-2013, 11:09 AM
      #16
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    I commiserate and you're in my thoughts . There's no much more that I can say.
         
        02-16-2013, 11:37 AM
      #17
    Trained
    It is never easy to lose a loved one, my condolences to you.

    What helped me after my dad was diagnosed with cancer, and we knew he didn't have long, was sitting in the candlelit church for midnight mass, looking at the flames.

    Look at this



    One candle, your dad, burning bright, but as the flame starts to flicker and die down, another candle picks up the flame and carries it on. Now is this a new flame, an old flame or maybe shared?

    It came home to me in that small dark church that the flame that burns bright in our parents is passed to us, and as such their flame never dies, it just gets passed on.

    Make your flame burn brightly, until it is time to pass it on again, but remember our parents never ever leave us, because we are part of them.
         

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