That was your actual message? I'm assuming you're the adult (since you said they are your former foster kids)? Wow.
I'm sorry but that wasn't a very mature message. Posted via Mobile Device
You are probably right. I've been super stressed lately, and I could have said it better than I did. However my former kid, is not a kid, he's 19. I call them kids, because they are, out of 30 kids, I have only had 3 under 16. Usually my kids are 16-21. It was also sent in a private message.
When the kids come to me, they are all delinquent youth, all coming out of detention centers, or residential placements. They have broken into cars and houses. I don't really baby them. I could for sure have worded the message I sent better, but I don't baby the kids, they are not some innocent little thing. I do talk to them in a way that others might find abrasive, when they mess up.
The issue here is that it wasn't really messing up, it's a popular culture thing that many kids are doing it.
When I was in school, kids got engaged, without a ring. I think it's probably just that taken to a new level.
However I do believe that it's making teens think early that marriage is something disposable.