At my most recent job review, my boss told me that I am not reaching my full potential because I am not setting enough goals for myself. After much self-reflection, I believe that this bad habit of mine is present in my entire life, not just at work.
I've been trying to set goals for my horsemanship, what I do, what I eat, what I say, etc. Problem is, I talk myself out of it. When someone else tells me that I need to achieve a certain goal, I can do it...but when I set one for myself, it fails nearly 100% of the time. I am a bit of a perfectionist (ISTJ personality type), so I fear failure. Is this inability to set goals for myself because I do not like failure or something?
Does anyone else have this issue? What did you do about it? Any advice?