Since I obviously can't say anything on facebook...

nvr2many · 05-08-2012, 11:07 AM

I feel for ya with the MIL thing. Mine lives up the road. I cancelled dinner with them because of a bad sinus infection and she still shows up and wants to talk to us! Ugh, im sick here!

northwesten · 05-08-2012, 01:07 PM

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Originally Posted by Walkamile

Northwesten, not sure about where you live, but here daycares are run like a business. If you decide not to bring your child on a scheduled day, then you pay. Why should they be out the money because you chose not to bring the child ? Daycare's also are paid for vacations, which I DO NOT agree with. They are a service business, and if not open for the service, nor should they be paid. Costs twice as much if the parent doesn't take that same week off, as they have to pay for the daycare on vacation, plus a daycare to watch said child so parent can work. Not fair!

To the OP, WOW! I think I'd blow a gasket, not only the the BO (obviously having a bad day, but directed it at you), but the MIL overstepped her bounds. And what's up with your daycare? Why would they allow her to cancel, she is not a primary parent? Around here, you have to be on the list to pick up the child, and if canceling anything, parents only have that authority.

Don't roll out the welcome mat for MIL, let her feel like an imposition. After all, YOU didn't invite her. Plus, call daycare and let them know that she is NEVER to do something like that again and that the child WILL be there as scheduled.

Now, have a nice chat, LOUDLY if needed, with your darling husband. The woman he needs to stand by is you. The woman whose emotions he needs to concern himself is you. I think that's what those pesky VOWs were all about. Perhaps a refresher of them is in order?

Oops I missed understood the op. Now I agree should pay if you did want to drop the kids off. Not childcare fault but I miss read her post and all I can say is she needs to tell the mil to not to touch her daycare are as it's none of her business.

Anyhow talk later cell phones suck.

SpiritLifter · 05-08-2012, 01:17 PM

If it were me and my HUSBAND couldn't lay the law down on HIS mother (get where I'm going with this?) I'd put a big old smile on my face when she came to the door and say "Welcome!!! So glad to see you!!! I was just on my way out. I'm so glad you and your son will get to spend some alone time together. He misses you so!" and then walk out the door with my bags packed to spend some BIG fun with my best friend at her house. Your husband, left to the kids and his mother will get the message and so will she! That's what I would do but I'm not you.

Call me evil but YOU run that house, not her and obviously not your husband. TAWANDA!

Corporal · 05-08-2012, 01:24 PM

**hugs**

texasgal · 05-08-2012, 01:28 PM

We refer to DH's mom as "the spawn of satan" .. horrible, I know, but I could tell you stories...

At any rate, I'm soooo thankful that DH has spared me and my children from having to have a relationship with her. My kids have never met her, she wasn't at our wedding, we see her once a year during the holidays..

It's hard when you're in the middle .. *hugs*

Cacowgirl · 05-08-2012, 04:31 PM

My MIL (who used to live across the street) came to our new place once-before I moved out here & since it's all "natural" ground & she has neuropathy it's not a good place for her-she now lives about 30 miles away & I don't see her very often. But she is a nice lady & there is no ill will between us.

busysmurf · 05-09-2012, 12:19 AM

Haha you guys are awesome! I'd say I get along w/ the MIL about 90% of the time, especially now that she's moved, LOL. EXCEPT when she does stuff like this.

I know she's no where close to winning the MIL from H*** crown (my FIL is definitely a strong contender tho!!!! LOL) she's just used to getting her way. I am glad she is seeing the kids, even though it's a well known fact both of them will end up in jail because of my parenting and corrupting her son (actually that's more the FIL view than MIL).

I did tell hubby I'm not paying her to watch my son (sht version: we used to pay her for daycare, & when she was running low on $ she'd ask if the kids could spend the wknd. Then on Wed ask if we were going to pay her for both kids in the wknd) thankfully that only happened twice. My fam is still seeing red about that whole thing, LOL

Ahhh, family. Can't live w/ them around, ya can't live w/o them around.
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nvr2many · 05-09-2012, 12:25 AM

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Originally Posted by SpiritLifter

TAWANDA!

OMG!!

loveduffy · 05-09-2012, 12:30 AM

If I was you I would move in to the hotel room and have the both pay for it Mothers day off

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