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post #1 of 14 Old 03-29-2010, 03:49 PM Thread Starter
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So guys...or girls..

Today Joe and I got into an argument over the most childish thing ever. He got upset because I joined the Mercedes forum he uses. I could care less about cars but I joined it as a joke. He got upset, asked me to not use my account ect ect. That went on to other bigger arguments.

Anyway, does anyone else have an experience like this? Last I checked, public forums are for the use of the public..whether they're in a relationship with a person or not?

He asked me, well how would you feel if I joined that horse forum?

Uhmm..why would I care? Its a public forum. Have at it!
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post #2 of 14 Old 03-29-2010, 03:55 PM
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Why did you join, if you're not interested in cars?

Seriously, that would be like someone who has no interest in horses joining a horse BB and blathering on about non-horse related subjects.

If you joined just as a 'joke', I can see him being irritated at you.

Sounds like you two have some underlying issues you need to work out.
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post #3 of 14 Old 03-29-2010, 03:55 PM
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Does he have something to hide? Does he lie when he posts? Sounds like he's not an honest poster in which case he wouldn't want you to post
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Naw, it just sounds like to me that he's serious about his hobby, like we are about horses.

I have a feeling he doesn't care if she looks in on the forum, but her joining when both of them know she has no real interest in the subject seems rather childish and petty.
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I joined because 2 years ago he was trying to date me and I found all these old threads he had made. He referred to me as TheDonna (no idea why) and his name is TheDon. The threads went on about the things he was trying to do get to get me to like him. I thought it was really cute to be honest. Anyway, I joined as TheDonna as a joke just to see if he would notice.
The only posts I made were of pictures of the Mercedes get-together we had the day before.

I don't troll forums and I had no intention of actually using the account, I just wanted to see if he would notice.
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Does he have something to hide? Does he lie when he posts? Sounds like he's not an honest poster in which case he wouldn't want you to post
Those were my thoughts as well.

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Naw, it just sounds like to me that he's serious about his hobby, like we are about horses.

I have a feeling he doesn't care if she looks in on the forum, but her joining when both of them know she has no real interest in the subject seems rather childish and petty.
If she's not posting and 'trolling', I don't see how her joining is a big deal.

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If she's not posting and 'trolling', I don't see how her joining is a big deal.
Agree.

Umm... For me that raises a question about it if there's something he doesn't want you to see there?

Yes, I admit also I've posted some things I perhaps shouldn't have posted for example here but if I had a boyfriend who wanted to join just for a joke (and perhaps check those things), well, forums are public and I wouldn't anyways have any reasons to prevent it because I want to be honest.

Actually I would have been flattered if a guy followed me on some forum . Even tho it'd be a bit annoying sometimes if I just wanted to share my thoughts without thinking all the time "what does he think about that?".

Anyways, my suggestion is to talk over that.

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And that may be the issue though Tamma. Now he knows I read the forums, he can't post what he really thinks about something if he needed advice from his "forum family". Just like I'm posting this in here, if he were a member, I wouldn't have posted it.
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Honestly...it sounds like he has things he's seriously trying to hide from you..whether it's stuff about your relation or if he's using it as a place to flirt with other people.

As far as you joining..My thoughts are, "why care". If it was a joke..cute. He could have acknowledged it as a joke in your post. And life would have gone on. And even if you were joining to troll...so what? If your open and honest in your relationship, what does it matter if you were to see his posts online...UNLESS he has something to hide.

No matter what the issue..I hope you are able to both sit down and resolve it.

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post #10 of 14 Old 03-29-2010, 04:16 PM
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If he is upset about it and you aren't interested in Mercedes why push the issue? Sure you don't care if he comes here but he obviously cares if you go there.

Just read your recent posts. I think it'd be like if my husband listened in on my phone conversations with my friends or my mom. I don't think I'd like it because we talk about things I either don't think he'd understand or things that are about him (both positive and negative). The offer me advice both good and bad.

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