03-29-2010, 06:08 PM
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^^ I agree. 100%. I can see it very much from both sides, but I know it's something I am hypersensitive about right now due to my recent experiences. I had joined a website (not so much a forum, more an article board - on dogs) some time back, and later found out my (now ex) fiance joined. I didn't think too much of it to start with, other than thinking it was a little weird, because when I started talking dogs, he'd start rolling his eyes at me because he'd heard it all before and didn't find it terribly interesting. Then he started posting articles, word for word things I had said to him myself, and speaking about me within those articles in a very possessive way.
It seemed to spiral into bigger issues from there. He went from joining that board, to wanting to check MY account from that board (to see if I was receiving pms) to wanting to check my email account - by the time I left him, he was checking my email account 10 times a day - about 9 times more a day than I checked it! He obviously had major trust issues - and since I had done nothing to cause any trust issues, I ultimately concluded he was having some problem with transferred guilt. A big part of this is what led to our break up.
If you have suspicions about him, approach him directly, don't play magnum PI. If you don't have suspicions, then leave him to it - allow him to have a grown up conversation about something he is passionate about, with people who are of like mind. Sometimes people need to be able to have adult conversation with someone of like mind - something we should all understand, being at this forum!