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post #1 of 14 Old 10-26-2012, 12:25 AM Thread Starter
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Standing Up For Myself

I left my (now ex) fiance a week ago.

I will not allow myself to be disrespected like that. I will never give the benefit of the doubt when i KNOW BETTER. I will never allow myself to be put in that dangerous of a situation where I have to fear for my life. I will no longer have the thoughts I would always have. I will no longer have that depression.

I am above that.
I am better than that.
I was raised to stand up for myself no matter what, and that is what I did. And I put the fear of God into that "boy."
He will never, EVER, lay his hands on me again.

I packed up all my stuff, and shoved it in my car, and drove away, without a single glance back. And with each mile seperating me from him, it was that much more of a weight lifting. Ive laughed and smiled more in the past week, than the past 2 years. The sun shines alot brighter, and the sky is alot more blue, and at night the stars shine more, and I dont know why i didnt do this sooner.
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post #2 of 14 Old 10-26-2012, 12:32 AM
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Well done! The courage to actually leave was probably the biggest step & it sounds like you cleared it by a mile. Congratulations on the start of a happier life :)
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It can be a hard choice but the best choices don't always come easy. Best of luck to you in your new future!!!
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post #4 of 14 Old 10-26-2012, 07:35 AM
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Here's to new beginnings!
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post #5 of 14 Old 10-26-2012, 08:07 AM
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Good for you! Smiles and laughter is how it should always be.
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You are a smart woman! So much better to do this now than down the road when their are children, etc. I know this from experience, I waited. I also know from experience that even though it is difficult at times, it is so better then were you were!
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post #7 of 14 Old 10-26-2012, 08:39 AM
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I applaud you for your wisdom and courage to do what you knew to be right.

Sometimes I wrestle with my demons. Sometimes we just snuggle.
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post #8 of 14 Old 10-26-2012, 09:13 AM
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Good for you!

I hope your story inspires others in bad situations to do the same.
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post #9 of 14 Old 10-26-2012, 01:54 PM
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So very proud! It takes a lot of courage to do what you did. Always remember that NO guy is ever worth going through that.

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post #10 of 14 Old 10-26-2012, 01:58 PM
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Very proud of you!

Laughter is a wonderful healer though it sounds as if your heart is not exactly broken!

One b/friend hit me and sent me flying. I stayed down as I knew if I got up he would follow through.He went out and returned a couple of hours later - never apologised and I didn't say a word.
Life continued as normal for about two weeks when he woke up one night to find me sitting across his cheat with his arms pinned by my knees and a knife at his throat, telling him that if he ever raised a hand to me again then he would wake up minus his ****!

Scared the life out of him and I threw him out the next day. I just needed him to know that I was not one to suffer in silence!
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