Struggling with friendship
Does anyone have a person in their life that you want to be friends with, and you try, but there just isn't any connection going?
There is this woman that I have known for about 4 years now, we met because she offered babysitting in her home and after interviewing her and what not, I let her keep my little girl. She only watched her for about two years, until she started preschool, but we stayed in touch. She's a very nice, very caring person...she has two kids (15 and 6) that are just the sweetest kids ever, her youngest and my daughter are good friends, her husband and mine get along great and we have them over fairly often to cook out...or we're invited to their house. When everyone is together it's all fine and good, but she's asked off and on to meet up for lunch or whatever, and that's where the issue is. I've met with her several times, and we just have nothing to talk about. We have zero in common. I have tried to include her in some of my daily outings or even go out for mani/pedis, just anything really, and it's like she'll just never answer. She has made comments about me working out and how we should work out together, and I'm like yeah...come on, let's do it...but then it never happens. It's getting to a point that I really don't care to be around her one-on-one, it's just uncomfortable.
There are lots of other nit-picky things that I could go on about, but that's the major of it. I'm just confused I guess, too, on what kind of friendship she wants with me. Part of me wonders if she wants a friendship, but then she'll asks me to do things with her. Normally even when said day comes it just doesn't happen. I'll text her and she never replies, and here I am with time set aside to do something with her when I could be out riding my horse or shopping or whatever.