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        07-29-2013, 05:34 PM
      #1
    Trained
    Things are blowing up now.

    Yeahh so this is Sorrel, back having daddy issues...Again.

    Original Thread: Sorrelhorse may or may not be leaving.

    So, up until this point I have been pretending to be okay. I rant online and look straight faced or smiling in person. Well today, I put an end to that.

    I'm at a final straw. I'm in emotional turmoil. Two of my cats who I loved so much are gone without a trace, my old dog I grew up with is going to have to be put down soon, we are struggling to keep our horses afloat, let alone get groceries for ourselves. I am so thankful my mom's new boyfriend is helping us out until things get better, otherwise we would not have any way to survive.

    Well anyway. My dad agreed to $800 a month for us originally. After two months he said he couldn't do that. My Mom tried to work it out and say we could live off $500 a month. Not forever, just until we got stable. I feel that is fair, considering he basically abandoned us after putting us through a year of total hell. (And honestly, a lot of hell before that, but that's another story)

    Yeah well, come the first of the month for the past three months it's been awful. He agreed to give us the money at the first. Yet, very first he says he doesn't have it. He makes four times as much as my Mom and I combined every month. He doesn't pay rent on his house, no tv, just electricity/water/food/internet. His gas is paid for by his work, as is his insurance. He has no animals or dependents. It's all for him. When he left, I asked him to keep paying the small internet fee up here for me (Which shuts off in two days btw...) but he is refusing. I offered to pay the small fee if he kept the internet in his name, since we can't get it in our name due to lack of income. He refused. Meanwhile, he now has a new ATV and high speed internet (For twice the speed of what we had here) at his house.

    Every time this time of month rolls around he screams at my mom on the phone until she breaks down in tears. She hangs up on him, but he calls back constantly until she answers again. She went to his work to pick up a check from him after he finally agreed, and he blocked her car in with his truck until he was done yelling at her. Then he texts me and victimizes himself, saying Mom is demanding more and that it's not his fault and he's just too broke.

    Yeah. As you can see, I'm done with this.

    I told him today if he wasn't going to play nice I wasn't going to see him again. If he couldn't commit and try to make up for his mistakes, then he needed to get out of our lives. We are currently texting/arguing and I am in tears typing this. I just couldn't sit by anymore. I have enough emotional issues and enough to deal with without his help. He's an unpleasant jerk to be around on the best of days....Let alone when he's like this...
         
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        07-29-2013, 05:51 PM
      #2
    Green Broke
    Is he legally obligated to pay your mother $500 a month? If its not I'd have your mom march right down to department of social services and start asking for child support. If he doesn't pay there is no need to call him, you call the police and they will revoke his license or put a warrent out for his arrest. They also keep track of all the back money he owes.

    Maybe its time to start thinking about cutting your dad out of your life for a little while.
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        07-29-2013, 07:30 PM
      #3
    Trained
    Are you 18 yet SH? If not, your mom needs to get a court order for him to pay child support. Sorry it is all happening, remember, it's between your mom & dad, not you. You just deal with the fall out, horrible, parents shouldn't let their kids witness that.
         
        07-29-2013, 08:16 PM
      #4
    Trained
    I am 18 on the 5th.../sigh/
    Anddd since my Mom is on disability, we are going to lose around $600 a month when I turn 18 because then I'll be an adult and she won't get a check to take care of me anymore. :/
         
        07-29-2013, 08:29 PM
      #5
    Showing
    Sorry but this is such an ass move of him. No one deserves to be mistreated, especially like he is doing to your mom.

    Is there a way you can get on food stamps? I don't really have experience with this as my parents always handled things when they got really tight.

    If you need anything, just let me know. You have my FB and I may be a sea away but I'm always online one way or another.
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        07-29-2013, 08:41 PM
      #6
    Trained
    Thanks girl :) I appreciate all your encouraging words, even just little ones on facebook.

    We make about $50 over the food stamp limit. Kind of getting screwed there....I have someone who could move in with us, but she can't for another six months...And that'll be too late.
         
        07-29-2013, 08:52 PM
      #7
    Showing
    Maybe see about contacting a church? They may be able to help with the food portion.. or food banks nearby too.

    Also try and find a legal attorney pro-bono about the mistreatment your mom is getting. Pinning her in a public car lot and yelling at her on the phone is definitely harassment.
         
        07-29-2013, 09:30 PM
      #8
    Trained
    Time for mother to start suing for alimony and her 1/2 of the assets and his future pension. And she can get back child support I think, for when he didn't pay when you were a minor. Does your dad work for a company or have his own business?
         
        07-29-2013, 09:56 PM
      #9
    Yearling
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    Originally Posted by waresbear    
    Time for mother to start suing for alimony and her 1/2 of the assets and his future pension. And she can get back child support I think, for when he didn't pay when you were a minor. Does your dad work for a company or have his own business?
    200% this. Your dad is behaving like a whiny little bitch, and Im surprised none of his/their hriends havent told him to man up and own up to his responsibilities.
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        07-29-2013, 10:21 PM
      #10
    Super Moderator
    I am sorry that you have such a poor man for a father, and I don't mean poor like lacking in money. I mean poor in that he lacks a spirit and a backbone, something you seem to have plenty of!
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