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        07-25-2013, 06:50 PM
      #11
    Trained
    I could care less if my husband snooped through my phone, computer, purse, underwear drawer, whatever. Probably why I have been married 34 years.
         
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        07-25-2013, 07:01 PM
      #12
    Trained
    Some people care, some people don't.

    I would get mad if anyone snooped through my phone without permission.

    If they asked though, I'd hand it over with no concerns.

    It drives me CRAZY when someone says "You wouldn't be mad if you didn't have something to hide." Yeah okay, if some random stranger came snooping through your house or barn, and you get mad, surely you must have something to hide right?

    Sometimes, I have embarrassing goofy texts between me and my best friend. They aren't bad per se just...goofy. And I don't get that way with anyone but her and it makes me uncomfortable is someone reads them.

    Maybe someone else was texting you things about their lives that people have no business knowing about? YOU don't have something to hide, but they're confiding in you about it and if someone goes through your phone their thoughts are no longer private. THAT'S what I worry about because I have a lot of conversations like that. I lock my phone now and delete texts like that as soon as the convo is over.
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        07-25-2013, 07:03 PM
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    Green Broke
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    Originally Posted by Shoebox    
    So, just going to throw this out there. Are you SURE it wasn't you? I only ask because twice now I have woken up and had a text message TYPED OUT and ready to send to my boyfriend. They were dreamland texts and thus made no sense (they made awesome sense to me in my dream), and were just a jumble of half finished sentences and words, but still. :)
    This

    I saw a report a month or so again about how more and more people are sleep texting and sleep calling on their mobile.
         
        07-25-2013, 07:08 PM
      #14
    Banned
    Change your password.
         
        07-25-2013, 07:09 PM
      #15
    Trained
    ^^^Yeah, that's my new excuse to my old man as to how I keep buying stuff on ebay, I do it in my sleep.
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        07-25-2013, 08:31 PM
      #16
    Showing
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    Originally Posted by EdmontonHorseGal    
    grrrr.........

    Woke up this morning to find out my bf had snooped on my phone last night while I was asleep. I know what state I left my phone in last night - no apps running and on the home screen.

    Wake up to my text messages open, and the text conversation between me and my best friend open.

    Only my bf and my kid were home. Kid knows there is hell to pay if she touches my phone without permission, and she stays sleeping all night anyway. Only other person at home besides me (i sleep like a stone!) was the bf.

    What would you do, what would you say? I give him no reason at all to not trust me, or suspect me of anything. Heck, he spends nearly all his free time with me as it is.

    Grrrrr...........
    My question is, why are you so concerned he went into your phone? Is there something he shouldnt see or know about?
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        07-25-2013, 08:34 PM
      #17
    Trained
    M2G - She said it already. Lack of respect and trust.
         
        07-25-2013, 08:44 PM
      #18
    Weanling
    I sleep very deeply and have never once done anything in my sleep like text or make calls. When I say I sleep like a stone, I mean it! Lol. I need 2 separate alarms to wake me up most mornings for work, full volume blaring music.

    I decided against the fb message to him. I realized that if he lied about going into my phone, I wouldn't be able to tell from written word alone in his reply. Nuances in the voice are much easier to detect, along with body language if in person.

    As SorrelHorse said:

    "Sometimes, I have embarrassing goofy texts between me and my best friend. They aren't bad per se just...goofy. And I don't get that way with anyone but her and it makes me uncomfortable is someone reads them.

    Maybe someone else was texting you things about their lives that people have no business knowing about? YOU don't have something to hide, but they're confiding in you about it and if someone goes through your phone their thoughts are no longer private."

    Yep. My best friend and I do the goofy thing via text, phone, and when we hang out together. I am rather 'toned down' around everyone else in my life. That goofy connection we have is ours, not anyone else's, and I strive to keep it that way. You don't have a best friend for over half your life without the goofy-ness :)

    I also have other friends that I text with that share parts of their lives with me because they know I am confidential and won't go showing or sharing these things with others. Now I have no idea if the bf is privy to any of that now, how many texts he read, etc. i've, due to somebody else's actions, broken that confidence my friends have in me. Yes, I know my friends are not aware of the snooping, but I know, and that is enough for me to feel badly about the breach of privacy between me and my friends.

    I always thought I shouldn't have to password lock my phone. It is always on or near me. My kiddo knows not to touch it unless I say ok. I thought I could trust the man I call my significant other to not snoop behind my sleeping back.

    I have a password on it now, but like I said, shouldn't have to.
         
        07-25-2013, 08:45 PM
      #19
    Trained
    Unless he has the exact copy of your phone for his own, I would at least want to hear an explanation. For example, maybe he couldn't tell the difference between a ring tone, an email tone, or a text tone and had just started pushing buttons thinking it was an important call. I realize that sounds a bit "unbelievable", but .... stranger things. Otherwise, I can't say that it would bother me ... but if it bothers you that much...crucify him.
         
        07-25-2013, 08:56 PM
      #20
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    Originally Posted by SorrelHorse    
    M2G - She said it already. Lack of respect and trust.
    I saw that hun, you didn't the point I was making.
         

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