i sleep very deeply and have never once done anything in my sleep like text or make calls. when i say i sleep like a stone, i mean it! lol. i need 2 separate alarms to wake me up most mornings for work, full volume blaring music.
i decided against the fb message to him. i realized that if he lied about going into my phone, i wouldn't be able to tell from written word alone in his reply. nuances in the voice are much easier to detect, along with body language if in person.
as SorrelHorse said:
"Sometimes, I have embarrassing goofy texts between me and my best friend. They aren't bad per se just...goofy. And I don't get that way with anyone but her and it makes me uncomfortable is someone reads them.
Maybe someone else was texting you things about their lives that people have no business knowing about? YOU don't have something to hide, but they're confiding in you about it and if someone goes through your phone their thoughts are no longer private."
Yep. my best friend and i do the goofy thing via text, phone, and when we hang out together. i am rather 'toned down' around everyone else in my life. that goofy connection we have is ours, not anyone else's, and i strive to keep it that way. you don't have a best friend for over half your life without the goofy-ness :)
i also have other friends that i text with that share parts of their lives with me because they know i am confidential and won't go showing or sharing these things with others. now i have no idea if the bf is privy to any of that now, how many texts he read, etc. i've, due to somebody else's actions, broken that confidence my friends have in me. yes, i know my friends are not aware of the snooping, but i know, and that is enough for me to feel badly about the breach of privacy between me and my friends.
i always thought i shouldn't have to password lock my phone. it is always on or near me. my kiddo knows not to touch it unless i say ok. i thought i could trust the man i call my significant other to not snoop behind my sleeping back.
i have a password on it now, but like i said, shouldn't have to.
Last edited by EdmontonHorseGal; 07-25-2013 at 09:47 PM.