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    07-25-2013, 09:59 PM
He has an Iphone on carrier/phone service A. Mine is a Motorola android on carrier/phone service B. There are absolutely no similarities between our phones at all. I usually have my phone on silent, and no calls or texts or notifications came in at all during the time I was asleep.

In order to go into my text messages, he would have had to first do the non-passworded slide unlock (my previous to today insurance against me accidentally bumping the screen icons), tap my texting icon, then scroll through the list of text conversations, find the one between my best friend and I, and then tap it. I don't see any of that being done 'by accident' when my phone would give him no reason to pick it up to check it - if it vibrated, which it didn't.

Anyone else been in this situation? How did you handle it? I'm a trusting person, and have not had to confront anyone on this sort of thing before.
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    07-25-2013, 10:01 PM
Originally Posted by My2Geldings    
My question is, why are you so concerned he went into your phone? Is there something he shouldnt see or know about?
there is absolutely nothing to hide on my phone. Like I mentioned, it is the snooping that has me upset, not the content. If he asked to see it, i'd hand it over. But when you do something sneaky behind my back, i'm going to be **** upset about it.
    07-25-2013, 10:25 PM
Green Broke
Perhaps he was looking for her phone number so he could text her in reference to a surprise gift he needs to give you!!

Married 16 years, never considered checking dh's texts- but have had him read through mine. So occasionally I send salacious ones so he can't help but ask me- its a thing here.
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    07-25-2013, 10:41 PM
Originally Posted by cakemom    
Perhaps he was looking for her phone number so he could text her in reference to a surprise gift he needs to give you!!
for the record, my bestie is a gay man, but that's besides the point.

If what you said was the case he would most likely message them on fb (my friends list is open to other friends), not look for the number on my phone. Or at the very least ask me for the number, or something like that. Not sneak onto my phone in the middle of the night - causing me to get upset about him sneaking/snooping.

With our phones, we simply don't touch each others unless its a circumstance that warrants it - like him driving and me checking google maps on his phone for our destination, etc. his has a pin code lock on his phone that i'm not privy to and i've never once felt inclined to need to look at anything on it. I would think (prior to last night at least) that he would feel the same about mine.
    07-25-2013, 10:47 PM
Green Broke
I was merely trying to make you smile.
Until you talk it out with him you won't know.
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    07-25-2013, 10:48 PM
Originally Posted by cakemom    
I was merely trying to make you smile.
thanks for that.
    07-26-2013, 12:04 AM
I can tell you right now, he is making sure you ain't doing hanky panky with your bestie, gay or not. Guys get jealous if they have something worthy to be jealous of. It's normal, deal with it or be single.
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    07-26-2013, 12:12 AM
He has a reason to be suspicious and check - otherwise you would have seen more jealousy type actions from him.

Brad can check my phone all he likes. However he has absolutely zero reason to, so he wouldn't.

The fact that your b/f did, means that he is worried about something. You have bigger relationship issues going on than him snooping. You need to talk to him.
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    07-26-2013, 12:44 AM
I would just talk to him about it. Don't go off on him, calmly explain your concerns and ask him why he did what he did, and go from there.

My boyfriend and I are very open with eachother. He can check my phone whenever he wants, with or without my knowledge, though he never does. Same thing with his phone. If we want to, we can. But he has never given me a reason not to trust him, so until he does, I don't invade his privacy.

We have been dating 2 years... And even then.. I have mad jealousy issues... So im actually surprised I don't snoop through his stuff just due to that fact. Lol
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    07-26-2013, 04:22 AM
You just need to ask him - don't accuse him, don't yell, don't get angry... just calmly ask him if he was using your phone last night. But PLEASE don't do it via facebook or text message.

No one on here knows whether he did it or why he did it - you need to ask him because it all could be nothing worth worrying about.

Now given that your best friend is a guy (gay or not) you BF will more than likely be checking to see things are staying that way.

My FH can look through my phone any time he likes, because I have nothing to hide on there that he doesn't already know about.

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