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post #1 of 24 Old 11-06-2008, 09:29 PM Thread Starter
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A warning/explanation...

I have been told by a few members that I have become increasingly snippy and generally unpleasant.
I'd like to take a moment to apologise.

I'd also like to try and explain myself.
I am super stressed.
I work a 6 to 7 day week, full days mostly. I just got promoted to being a manager at one of my jobs, which means (besides *yay*, more money.. barely. a whopping 25 cent raise,) more work. More stressful work. I got promoted up from a group of my peers, and they are none too happy that I got the position over them, so dealing with them has made my life a little more hectic.
I think it's pathetic that I almost cry for joy when I get more than 2 days off within the same pay period.
I'm not pushy enough to just say no to my bosses when they ask me to cover a shift here and there... and they are well aware of my situation.
Just recently I went to the doctor and he's worried there's something going on with me, so *yay* blood tests, ECGs and the like.
I'm also on a medication that makes me just a little .. iffy. Yeah, let's leave it at "iffy."
My "love" life has become more a chore than anything recently, and I'm lucky to see Rich more than a couple times per week. (I'm sure I've talked to many of you about this before..)
Denny's leg is healing, but I'm thinking more and more it looks like it's going to leave a scar.
.. not to mention the whopping vet bill I just got.
... I'm sure there's more, but my brain's too frazzled to even think of everything at once anymore.

Then I come on here, excited to talk about my passion, and I've just been called "mean" because my post was too to the point, and I've hurt somebody's feelings... over the internet. I'm sorry, but there's a little bit too much going on in my life to take the time to make sure I'm not stepping on anybody's toes.

If I've become too mean, then the moderators are more than welcome to remove my posts.
If I've become too mean, then please report the posts, and/or ask (or suggest to the mods to ask) me to leave the forum.
I do have one thing to say though, and that is, this is the internet... you may take what you wish from that.

So, yeah, I'm a little touchy recently... short-fused and everything... this is just a teeny weenie little view into my world.

Please be patient. I'm not my usual happy-go-lucky self, sorry.

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post #2 of 24 Old 11-06-2008, 09:50 PM
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I'm sorry things have been so stressful for you.

I can identify with that. This summer I was working 16 hour days 7 days a week and it was no fun. It IS stressful! I -like you- was thrilled when I got one day off and -like you- just about cried with joy when i got 2 off in a row which meant if everything at the apartment was caught up on (I barely had time to go grocery shopping until 11:00 at night but then had to be back to work for 7am) I could go home and see my horses.

I hope things get better for you!


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post #3 of 24 Old 11-06-2008, 09:55 PM
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I dont think you have been mean... I know what you mean about being stressed and "love life" seeming more like a chore then anything (kinnda having those problems as well at this time). Just take a moment and breath, I hope everything works out well with your health... that is always a scary thing. If you ever and i mean ever need to rant Im only a PM away.

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post #4 of 24 Old 11-06-2008, 10:03 PM
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I think its been said elsewhere but its easy to misinterpret people and take things wrong because these words aren't spoken and we don't know the type of people behind them. As people get to know you better I'm sure they'll give you the benefit of the doubt. This forum's members are nicer in general than other members of other forums though. I'm very happy to find this place!! I feel like I can bring up many topics and not get crushed before I can explain anything!!

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post #5 of 24 Old 11-07-2008, 12:33 AM
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You are an absolute peach. Yes, things are overwhelming for you right now, but it is only temporary, your life wont be so chaotic forever.

My motto: "Like it, or lump it."

I find there are other members here that are far more offensive than you my dear. You are a very important part of our family here, and I would be deeply saddened if you were to leave.

Yes, we kind of have to watch what we say here as to not hurt ANYONE'S feelings, but you can not step on every one's toes all of the time, make sense? I think this is where developing thick skin comes in handy. It IS the internet, not EVERYONE is going to be polite and say exactly what you want, thats when you need to say, oh well, and move on.


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post #6 of 24 Old 11-07-2008, 06:18 AM
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I haven't noticed this, but i work a lot too and haven't been around much. ( last pay period was 151 hours.)

Listen - if you feel this way just remind yourself that you are stressed. I know when I am my posts are short and blunt. I feel like I don't have time to "discuss" stuff. And don't have time for the teenage stuff that is ( sorry folks) mostly important to , well, teenagers. ( Boyfriends, school, who said what to whom.)

If you get two days off you are lucky. Many many jobs get one day off, or one day and a floating 1/2 day off. Seeing your b/f twice a week is plenty. Many married couples see each other only that much .... often it's the damp bathroom towel or full laundry hamper that lets you know your spouse is around!

Working your butt off is great. You are learning many things..... and setting a work ethic for yourself. Part of being the boss is jumping in there when there is a hole in the schedule. Keep doing a great job - down the road here is a "management position" on your resume. When a new employer calls to ask, they'll hear that you were great with your workers, always ready to jump in- a hands-on manager, punctual, reliable, ect. bang - you have been hired.

A manager that comes in, from outside, or is promoted from inside--- unless it's an older employee who has been there longer than everybody else ---- is always "tested" and disliked. For a while. There is a dude here that has been a flaming butt for 6 months. I have been nice and consistent with him. He has finally given up his ugliness. I merely outlasted him. He is a good worker, I didn't want the business to lose him. The biz comes before what I personally think.

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post #7 of 24 Old 11-07-2008, 06:57 AM
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To be honest I had a similar situation where I said something with no intention of being bad but the other person took it in a totally different way i.e. in a bad way.

People have to understand this is an Internet, the other person is not in front of you nor you know what kind of gesture, body language he is using. So you got to weigh what other person said from all sides.

I get quite stressful too specially when I am working for a company as well as running my own business. Trust me running two things at the same time is worst then having two wives!....

maybe that example is not so well suited here! . Now some people will take it as a joke some won't....See the example.....

I am not sure if you have read one of my post in "Guys only" thread, where I took all my stress from my business side on the forum post (by creating a new one)!.....I'd say if you have any kind of stress, instead of taking it off on someone by replying their post, take it off by creating a new post.

I am sure that works out better then replying someone's thread with stressful head. The main reason is because the other person doesn't know you are that stressed nor he is aware that you might have taken things differently.

Alternatively you can always write underneath that "Sorry but I am pretty stressful at this moment of time" or you can avoid answering the thread. Anything which works out better. Though I would prefer creating a new thread specially after having a big row on miss-understanding previously on the internet.

After all internet is like a big giant family of people living in a same house though have totally different views about every matter.

Hope this helps and hope that you won't take my words in a bad manner.

Saying all that, if you ever have to discuss anything I am right beside you!



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post #8 of 24 Old 11-07-2008, 08:06 AM
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Aww JDI ((((hug)))) I love ya anyway
Last we chatted you had just lost your old job so glad to hear your employed albeit overworked.
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post #9 of 24 Old 11-07-2008, 09:27 AM
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Allie...rest assured that we'll be here!!! LOL... You do what you have to do and live your life. It is all to easy to lose inflection or read somone's post wrong. We'll let you know if you have caused a derailment. Until then... try to sneek time in for a hot bath and a class of wine!!!

Congrats on the Promotion! BTW!

Be strong and courageous, and do the work. Don't be afraid or discouraged by the size of the task, for the Lord God, my God, is with you. He will not fail you or forsake you.

1 Chronicles 28:20

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post #10 of 24 Old 11-07-2008, 10:20 AM
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I haven't noticed that you would have been rude/unpleasant/anything...

Hang on there! The stress will be eased off in some day.

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