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post #1 of 15 Old 07-27-2013, 09:32 PM Thread Starter
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Exclamation What do we do with my dads dog, Dad passed 4 days ago

I just got a call from my sister in law who currently has Buddy, my dad's German Shepard. He was super close to my father for a few years and was there when he died. My brother brought him home to live there but it is not working out, he is getting protective/possessive over my brother, not letting his two littler girls come near him.

This is not like Buddy...not at all. Buddy loves these kids to death and has for 4 years let me hang all over him and play and do what little kids always do

My sister in law and brother don't want a freak thing to happen, like the dog snap or actually bite one of the kids. We are all agree that sitting around waiting for that to happen is fair to no one and simply is not an option.

I had told them before that if it did not work out with them I would love to take him in.

Well I got the call a short bit ago. I said I had to talk to my mom first but I would keep in touch.
My mom shut e down and said put the dog down.

I am devastated, this was my dad's dog!! I can't put him down when there is no reason health wise. He has not been dangerouse yet but we all know that it could happen with the signs they are showing.

For now the dog and kids are separated and when out together very closely supervised. The kids have been told not to hug or get in buddy's face to keep them safe. We are taking doing our best to keep the girls safe and buddy feeling safe.

I want to bring him home so bad. This is all I have left of my dad. All my siblings relize this and that's why I was called.

If I can't keep him it is not the end of the world but I am simply not putting him down!!

What I would love from you guys is any refernces to German Shepard or any dog sanctuary where they can live out the rest of their lives being a dog. We don't think he will last too much longer as he is older and he really having a hard time with the loss of my father.

I feel so bad for this poor dog and love him so much. I'm truly heart broken in this situation with grieving my fathers passing.

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post #2 of 15 Old 07-27-2013, 10:03 PM
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Everyone in the family is grieving including your dads dog. If I were you I would go get your dads dog and bring him home. Things should calm down in time.
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Thank you.
I am hoping I can reason with my mom.
I don't think I could handle loosing my dad and loosing his best friend who I have come to love so much.
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Very few vets will put down an animal that is otherwise healthy even if aged. If the situation is not going to work out with your mom, who I am guessing doesn't want the dog around as he would remind her of your dad, try doing a search for a shepherd rescue or any dog rescue group in your area. Explain the situation and see if they can find him a permanent foster or a new home. Here are just a few in Washington....

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Yes, go and get the dog. If you need to do something later there will be time then.
You are all reeling from the funeral and all the upheaval, the dog also.
Things will quiet down for everyone. Good Luck!

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post #6 of 15 Old 07-28-2013, 01:37 AM Thread Starter
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we haven't even had the funeral yet, he gets cremated tomorrow....
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we haven't even had the funeral yet, he gets cremated tomorrow....
See, you all are running on high emotions right now. Try and hold off any big decisions, I would think your mom would regret having put the dog down, once things calm down.

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I'm sorry for your loss.
I can understand your brothers worry over the dog and the children.
GSDs are very protective dogs and it is a matter of your brother making sure he is alpha and, the dog understands the children are higher in pack order than he is.

One GSD I had was very protective and came to me for similar reasons as with Buddy. I had to be really firm with him over everything to start and, if I ever get a dog half as good as him then I will be lucky.
I would have left that dog alone in a room full of toddlers and known that they would be safe with him but it did take training.
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I just got a call from my sister in law who currently has Buddy, my dad's German Shepard. He was super close to my father for a few years and was there when he died. My brother brought him home to live there but it is not working out, he is getting protective/possessive over my brother, not letting his two littler girls come near him.

This is not like Buddy...not at all. Buddy loves these kids to death and has for 4 years let me hang all over him and play and do what little kids always do

My sister in law and brother don't want a freak thing to happen, like the dog snap or actually bite one of the kids. We are all agree that sitting around waiting for that to happen is fair to no one and simply is not an option.

I had told them before that if it did not work out with them I would love to take him in.

Well I got the call a short bit ago. I said I had to talk to my mom first but I would keep in touch.
My mom shut e down and said put the dog down.

I am devastated, this was my dad's dog!! I can't put him down when there is no reason health wise. He has not been dangerouse yet but we all know that it could happen with the signs they are showing.

For now the dog and kids are separated and when out together very closely supervised. The kids have been told not to hug or get in buddy's face to keep them safe. We are taking doing our best to keep the girls safe and buddy feeling safe.

I want to bring him home so bad. This is all I have left of my dad. All my siblings relize this and that's why I was called.

If I can't keep him it is not the end of the world but I am simply not putting him down!!

What I would love from you guys is any refernces to German Shepard or any dog sanctuary where they can live out the rest of their lives being a dog. We don't think he will last too much longer as he is older and he really having a hard time with the loss of my father.

I feel so bad for this poor dog and love him so much. I'm truly heart broken in this situation with grieving my fathers passing.

HELP
I can only imagine the dog must sense the grieving that is going on, which makes things really complicated for the dog. What I would suggest is to have you guys find a local dog trainer who can help you re-arrange the way things are done around the house. I worked for a dog trainer for a few years so it's easy for me to recognize the problems.

The dog needs a job, he needs guidance and structure which is what must be lacking because you are all going through a lot. It's a common problem with dogs who have been in the family for a while. This sounds like an amazing dog, and I know you guys can correct this easily but you'll need a knowledgeable dog trainer to work with you.

Something that comes to mind are the dog whisperer series. I believe most of them are online on youtube. I know I've seen a lot of cases he's worked with over proctective dog of a family member, and I think it could help you.
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post #10 of 15 Old 07-29-2013, 10:10 AM
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My condolences!

I'd take a dog in.

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