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post #1 of 25 Old 10-14-2013, 07:47 PM Thread Starter
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Unhappy What should i do? Work Related Issue (Very Long but i need advice )

Hi all, So I am having issues at work and I need advice. My supervisor crossed the line today.

I am a housekeeper at a 400+ bed Hospital/Medical Center. Ive been there for a year and a half and have never had a write up except for one a few weeks ago for attendance. And my attendance isn't bad, my jobs policy is that you can only have 3 unplanned absences in a 6 month period and I recently had issues with a 4mm Kidney Stone. Actually happened at work so they knew I wasn't faking it. I walked down to the ER (unplanned #1) and got put off by the doctor the next day (unplanned #2 ) and a few days later it had moved and I was in severe pain (unplanned #3). I understand that it is hospital policy and that issue was talked about and dealt with, with a different supervisor.

Here is the issue today:

Mind you this supervisor has a tendency to target people and just pick and pick and she has no people skills what so ever but anyway...

The other day I used a very tiny staff bathroom That is tucked inside a tiny staff locker room, that had two nurses in there having a meeting. There was no room for my cart even if they weren't in there. I had it setting where all the other housekeepers put theirs. Right on the other side of the door. I then decided to go ahead and clean it since I was already there. The paper towels and toilet paper and supplies are already in the bathroom. So I used it, washed my hands. Dried them. And started changing the paper towels and toilet paper. Then came out to get stuff to sanitize with. My cart was gone. My Supervisor had came up and moved it down the hall. She said I had left my cart unattended. And if someone had drank my chemicals it would be my fault and if a patient coded and the way was blocked it would have been my fault( my cart was out of the way as much as possible and the hallway was blocked due to 3 different work station on wheels that the nurses put there. But I explained that I used the restroom and then started cleaning. She said but you don't have anything to clean with. I told her that in that particular bathroom the stuff is stored in there. Which is true. Its all kept in a cabinet. And that I was coming out to get sanitizer. This verbal confrontation happened in the hall way in front of staff, patients, and visitors which is wrong because she should have done it in private. But I said I understood I was wrong and I sincerely apologized and she looked at me and said you think im stupid don't you?

Really? I understand that I was wrong. Give me my verbal warning and I wont do it again. Simple as that.

Today: I get paged to call her. She says come to the office RIGHT NOW.
So I go into the office and she has a written write up for that same cart occurrence. She said it was my final.

Our policy is on one issue you get a verbal warning. if it happens again, you get a written warning. if it happens a third time you get your second and final written warning. if it happens again then its termination. This issue only occurred once. So I only deserved a verbal. She told HR it was my final. So I got put on 90 day probation. If I screw up within 90 days, im fired. Then she tried to bring up the attendance. Again, I already talked this separate issue out with my other supervisor. It had already been dealt with.

Then, she looks at my scrub top which is my size and fits fine, but one of the snap is a little loose so it comes undone easily. Mind you I always wear a cami or tank top underneath anyway but She said I needed to change (we are issued scrubs) So she gets me a new top.

here is where she goes very wrong...

Shuts the door of the office behind her. And hands me the top. And says I can change in here. I feel that's extremely wrong but I had a tank top on so fine. I changed my top. She stares at my chest the whole time trying to see if I have my cell phone tucked in it. I don't. Its not on me. Its in my locker. Because we aren't allowed to have them on us. I had one arm out of the top and she takes ahold of it and pulls it. And starts going through the pockets trying to find a cell phone that isn't there. When she realizes I don't have it she tosses it back at me and says..
"when you lose weight you can wear it."

As soon as I got out of the office I started silently bawling because I felt stupid, harassed, belittled, embarrassed, violated. I talked to a team leader who was extremely upset this happened to me and she suggested I call HR and report her. Because she has heard other complaints on this same supervisor. But I feel like HR wont do anything. I understand she thinks I left my cart. Fine. I was wrong. Next time ill cram it in wherever even if theres other people. But I want her to know what she did was wrong and I feel like that's harassment at the least.

My department has an employee retention rate of 53% if that tells you anything. No one sticks around because of how we are treated.

Im sorry it is so long and rambling and bad grammar and punctuation. Tonight I feel so bad about myself.
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post #2 of 25 Old 10-14-2013, 07:59 PM
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Oh my gosh, what a horrible experience! I would certainly complain to HR and tell them you felt violated and harassed! And if they don't do anything about it, go higher up. Keep going up and up til someone listens to you! This is so so wrong. Is there a government ombudsman you could put your complaint to if HR did nothing? Do you have a staff union?

I know how utterly cr*p it feels to be bullied at work, it happened to me once and I just walked out and sat in the foyer bawling my eyes out. I'd been called insolent and given a really horrible verbal upbraiding because the office manager had read stuff between the lines in an email I'd sent her that I'd never intended (and couldn't for the life of me see how she'd read them!). I was fortunate she wasn't my supervisor and sent her a very civil email saying that the way she had spoken to me was unfair and had put me in considerable distress but I was willing to be professional and move on from the incident if she would.

I hope you get this matter seen to, you must feel horrible and silence is the friend of bullies. Just sending you a big big hug.

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Wow. Everyone had a boss, I'd be going directly to hers!! Since when is it a crime to use the bathroom? Going through your pockets? Hell no, not on my watch! I'd march right down to HR, I'm sure your not the only one who has brought it to someone else's attention. If you are maybe you can help other people from suffering her wrath.
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If someone said that to me and went through my pockets, they'd be getting their teeth knocked out, regardless. I'm so sorry that you had to go through that!
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Report it to HR. A written report. Be factual. Don't try to assume her intentions or thoughts, but do be clear on what you felt and how you were treated. Put in a formal grievance on the written warning. This will provide background if there are future negative situations. It's important that you keep it as impersonal as you can, insofar as not trying to criticize your supervisors personality or judge her abilities.

Even if the whole thing goes south, you will have something to back you up. Encourage all others to use the formal complaint system instituted in the system.
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Absolutely go to your HR department. The way the place sounds it couldn't make it any worse! Maybe if you come forward with this incident others will be compelled to report theirs as well and this boss of yours will get what she deserves.

The HR department is only there for situations like this. I've had friends report superiors for inappropriate behavior before and it was definitely dealt with. I would at least give it a shot if I were you.
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HR's aren't stupid. If a supervisor has enough complaints against them something will happen even more so when harassment is involved. Keep this in mind, HR's main job is to keep a company from being sued by the employees and they'll take steps to keep that from happening.

EDIT: Forgot to say don't report you were harassed, report that you felt you were harassed. Same thing? Not at all and the distinction is important.
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thanks everyone. The only thing im worried about is if they DO do something, obviously she is going to know who it was that went and reported her and I am afraid she will make my life a living hell even worse.
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I'd definitely report her. If there were others that had done the same, she probably couldn't pinpoint solely you. Don't be afraid to stand up for your rights, what she did was inappropriate.
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I would have been in the HR office asap she has NO right to put her hands on you. She needs to go I'll tell you why. The longer she gets away with her behavior the worse it will get! I had a boss bully me for months she was on a huge power trip I wished I had gone to HR. Long story short she ended up setting me up so I was fired. Come to find out she ended up getting fired about a year after me. They finally figured out that all the turnover was because of her and her being a control freak and a micro manager. Well let me tell you karma will come back to bite her in the a$$!
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