Firstly Mum asked the solicitor to call me and my sis and hubby were also there. B-I-L would not have accepted if I had objected.
Secondly 'marbles was not the right word to use here but it has been a family joke for many, many years. Mum would say "I lost more marbles today, went down the town and left the dog tied up outside the fish shop, never missed her until 3 o'clock!" The dog had been there for five hours! If that was bad it was not as bad as when she had her first grandchild out for a walk, called in at a friends and left via the back door as did friend leaving the baby in the hallway!
Quite honestly it does not bother me in the slightest. Mum knows what she wants and it is hers to do with as she wants. My B-I-L is brilliant with her and thinks the world of her. It all comes out in the wash anyway. I have no children and so everything I have will be left to their three children as will anything they own.
MAny years ago I was staying at home with Mum when she said "I am making a will, is their anything you want?"
I looked around and said "Not really!"
For that I got a box around the ears. (In fun)
All to often I have seen people fall out over the death of a family member. That will not happen with us because we know it is not worth it. Neither my sister nor I are materialistic and if she wants a specific item she can have it. I am more likely to want the practical things like the old kitchen scales and mixer than items of jewellery which I will never wear.
Thanks again - I was just curious as to what others would think.