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    08-13-2012, 01:02 PM
  #21
Green Broke
I love my dad to pieces. I am the ultimate daddy's girl. We work together, and feed the horses together. So basically on week days we're together 24/7 until we go home, then we're still together LOL. He gives the best advice, tries to listen, and does his best to make us all happy. He does have a temper, and loves to yell, but I've learned I just gotta yell back. I've inherited his worker bee mentality. Nothing is handed to you, you earn what you need. His father died before he was ten, coming back from the war. He couldn't even go to his own father's funeral because he had to babysit his little brother. Anything I can learn about him, I want to. He's a great father, even if he doesn't know how to properly communicate. But, who can blame him? I can't remember the last time either of us have said "I love you" but that's fine, because we know we do. The words don't have to be spoken for the emotions to be there. :)
     
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    08-14-2012, 05:20 AM
  #22
Showing
A puppy.

So full of energy, all over the place, eager to please, does things purely out of love. Really goofy...

But we love him :)
     
    08-16-2012, 01:13 AM
  #23
Foal
My dad is a world apart from me in personality and a lot like me in looks...

He's a very serious person for the most part and doesn't find anything but his jokes funny... He doesnt really have a temper, but not a big soft side either. He's the type of person you'd think of as some uptight buisnessman... Yet he works at a liquor store xD. He's a nice break from my loving but over the top and eccentric mother and tends to be more reasonable and down to earth. He doesn't understand horses yet supports me and it was his idea to get me a horse in the first place.

I love and appreciate my dad, even if I don't say it and I'm very fortunate to have him.
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    08-16-2012, 10:03 AM
  #24
Green Broke
My dad isn't the typical father really.

He's very much an intellectual and rather impractical. Whenever he does something practical he messes it up. Like he put a new lockable handle on a shed for his partner and put it on back to front so he was locked inside and he had to call her to let him out! He's not particularly protective or anything. My parents split up when I was 4, so I don't really remember living with him. He's a good father though, he'd always see me once, usually twice, a week. He'd come to my horse competitions even though he knew nothing about them. He's never had a car license so he walks everywhere, although just recently he bought a bicycle that is his pride and joy.

He collects wine and likes comic books or "graphic novels" as he calls them. He is very vague, he'll just stare off in space and you have to say his name a few times for him to pay attention. You'll ask him a question and keep walking in silence for about five minutes and all of a sudden he'll start talking, and answering it.

He's very logical, and pragmatic I guess. A lot more serious and grounded. My mother is impulsive and illogical. It's like they're two opposites, my mother has white blonde hair and blue eyes (German) and my dad has dark hair, dark eyes and sort of olive complexion (Hungarian Jewish). My mother is impulsive and illogical, my dad is logical and plans everything. I got a bit of both, I'm logical and impulsive, I make plans then break them, or carry them out immediately to their extreme. Looks wise I look like my dad, but a bit paler. He looks really young, and dresses young with sort of longish hair, so when we would go shopping together when I was in high school people would say "Oh I saw you with your boyfriend/brother" which was always really awkward.

He's never yelled at me, probably because I've never listened to anything he's said anyway. I could always wrap him around my little finger!

Over the years we've grown distant. We talk once a week on the phone for a short time, and we see each other a couple times a year.
     
    08-16-2012, 10:21 AM
  #25
Green Broke
Sorry double post.
     
    08-16-2012, 10:27 AM
  #26
Green Broke
Much like MHF .. I would have answered very differently when I was a teen.

My dad is my heart.

When I was young, he was the bread-winner, an athelete, the smartest most handsome man on the planet and MY daddy.

He was strict and controlling when I was a teen and I, too, left home in a huff.

Coming full circle, he is the man that I admire the most. Aged, with late onset muscular dystrophy, yet refusing to give into it. Works out at the gym almost every day, takes care of my mother who has some dementia, obsessed over the state of our country and the world.

My parents live over 1000 miles away and I talk to them at LEAST once a day. My dad is still the person I go to for advice, to vent, and I tell him dang near EVERYTHING.

I will be lost if I ever lose him .. but I'm convinced he'll live forever.
     
    08-16-2012, 11:03 AM
  #27
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My dad... well my dad is a great father and a horrible husband.
He can be very critical as he has a hard time understanding other people that are different than him. I, the big mouth, have always been able to get across to him. I've never been afraid to say what I think, so if I find he's being unfair/unreasonable, I blurt it out.

He'll often also say what he thinks. He'll hurt my mom by telling her he doesn't like her hair color or outfit, or he'll save my sister's pocket book by telling her why her choice will only cost her more than she needs to pay.

He is a perfectionist, making him controlling. He'll freak out when the kitchen is a mess when we bake, but will clean it all himself to ensure it's done properly. He does all the renovations on our house and is the handyman that saved my sister's butts.

He'll be very frugal with his money (he has good reasons but he's also veryy paranoid when it comes to dept, and dept we have (mortgage and so on)).
So he'll never take my mother out, and never buys her something nice like she dreams of. He will however send us to private school, and loan my sister money for the down payment on her condo. He gave my sisters a large wedding present to help them pay the costs and no matter how much he grumbles, he'll drive me to my lessons when I ask him.

While he is very misunderstood by my mother and he completely misunderstands her, he is a simple man. He likes simple things. Taking a walk with me. Going fishing. Walking on the beach, or on the forest trails in the fall so he can see the leaves changing color. Sitting outside in our garden on a beautiful evening.

That's pretty much my dad. Very harsh, quite inconsiderate, but extremely loving and very thoughtful... all at the same time.

Edit: Haha, oh ya. He's also the kind of father that goes to pick us up after school/work knowing we'll be tired, but that won't tell you, so occasionally he'll wait a very long time only to find out later that we stayed after school to work on a project, or went to a friends house. He'll get mad, but will still do it again.
     
    08-16-2012, 11:38 AM
  #28
Trained
My father cheated on my mom with a coworker then left us for her. He married her, didn't invite me to the wedding and didn't tell me they were married. I found out they were married from her kids, who were a couple of years older than me and awful to me. They'd steal from me when I came over to spend weekends - I didn't even want to spend weekends with them or my father. My father and stepmother kept shoving us kids together and they would abandon me - even leaving me alone - wheneve possible. We got child support because my mother took him to court and they garnished his wages. As soon as people started listening to me about not wanting to spend my weekends there, I stopped going. Their house always had bugs, nothing was ever cleaned well. When my parents were still together, my mom and I would visi her family (in another country) and when I'd come back I'd have clothes and toys missing. I later found out (by seeing MY stuff with my name written on it in some cases) at their house and I knew I didn't bring it over.

Currently he calls me about one a week or two weeks. I didn't invite him to my wedding. He's cheap to the point that it's embarrassing. He's taken it upon himself to go on a road trip with my step mother and just arrive unannounced, then get mad when my husband and I didn't drop everything to attend them. The ONLY thing my father has ever supported me doing was have a baby - except that I don't have kids nor do I want kids. He hounds me about it whenever he calls. He's got "grand kids" through my step others children and had a son with his first wife (step mother is wife #3) and has grandiose through him too.
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    08-16-2012, 01:03 PM
  #29
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Oh man my dad...

Well to say I look like him is an understatement! The only features I recieved from my moms side was a big chest and pretty blue eyes which I sure would have passed up for her legs and non chubby cheecked face..

However I am not anymore closer to my dad then I am to my mom. I just know who to go to for certain situations
Joking but in all seriousness... anything animal or farm related is always directed at my dad and all personal problems get directed to mom

As for daddy daughter relationship I would say I am daddys favorite and if you asked my brother and middle sister they would say "yea well he loves you and moira the most" bbut that's only because me and moira work to earn my parents respect and in return we get respect.

But my dad is the one I work on cars with, I go animal shopping with, shot guns with, go camping with, learned how to drive with, went to fire training to make him proud and even picked colleges with him and sadly went with a school he loved instead of one I loved..but it worked out great for me. My dad has helped me with so much that I don't think I honestly say he more then 2 negative things about him.
1. He is a jokester and usually my mom is the one on the other end of his jokes and she does not like his jokes, so...
2. He is a workacoholic! He needs something to do all the time. He makes a ton of lists and constantly starting new projects but never finishes them. I am always stuck finishing up his started projects... which he generally starts off wrong anyway.. so I wish he would leave most of his silly projects for me to do so I could just do them right and be done with it.

Other then that he is all about putting other peoples needs before his. He works so much so that he can provide a good life for his family. He will drop work for any of our sports competitions or if we simple just need his help. He is always there for me and my family when we need him.

He is my dad and hopefully he will come back from vacation and we can have our traditional movie night.maybe I can convince him into watching a documentary
     
    08-16-2012, 02:58 PM
  #30
Super Moderator
My dad is a very sweet man. He is not the typical masculine fellow, and in fact, I have often wondered if he wasn't actually gay but never allowed himself to think this. He is married, and has fathered 6 children, but that doesn't mean he couldn't be a long closetted gay man.

Anyway, the main thing with him is that his whole life is focussed around finding beauty in everything that he sees or hears. He loves music and as a kid I was exposed to all kinds of music in our home. The stereo was going every evening, as we had very limited TV time. My dad loves to find the queerky and charming things that surround us in minute form, such as some tiny insect found in some obscure blossom. He will stop and look at something that is so mundane that no other person would ever take any notice of it, then he'll point it out and explain in oftimes excrutiating detail why it is a miraculous thing, isn't it? Well, you just have to agree.

Now that he is quite old and not nearly as active as he used to be , this ability to be fascinated by the smallest thing in God's earth has provided for him to stay engaged in the world around him, and grateful to be alive, even when his very frail body cannot DO much anymore.
     

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