Well, to be honest I have a reasonably strict idea of what constitutes abuse. So for me abuse means something that is physically or mentally detrimental to the animal and is executed for no reason other than to cause harm intentionally.
What a lot of what people may call 'abusive' I am hesitant to put into that catagory.
Which means for me it is a no-brainer - abuse is far worse than ineffectiveness.
But riddle me this LovedOne, can you think of a situation where ineffectiveness WOULD be worse than abuse, without being some form of abuse itself?