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post #1 of 20 Old 01-05-2017, 01:45 PM Thread Starter
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When you think you can't...

I would like this to be a motivational thread.

So many times we are told by science, by those around us and most often by ourselves, that it can’t be done; that it is too hard, you are too old, too young, too small, too fat, too skinny, too weak, not smart enough, not talented enough, too poor, not experienced enough. Told this often, we begin to believe it and that…is where we fail.

We are more often than not, our own worst enemies when it comes to not succeeding because we become afraid to even try; our failure in our own minds is assured. Our self-talk is what puts the final nail in the coffin of failure.

A couple of months ago I had the privilege of watching my eldest daughter compete in her chosen sport. She is 28 (the oldest in the competition), has been training for one year and is ranked 11th in the country for Olympic weight lifting. She has had two children, the youngest of which just turned two. In the photo she is lifting 75 kg or just over 165 lbs clean and jerk if I remember correctly. (no, she does not have naturally blue hair. :))

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She is prone to gaining weight but, has made fitness a priority. She also has a thyroid cyst and an s-curve scoliosis in her upper back that cause her back pain on occasion (Dr’s have given her the okay to train for this) as well as having some prior knee problems, which strength training has helped to resolve.

Go ahead, tell her an “old” fat girl with two children and some health issues and performance anxiety that she can’t…dare you.

I’d like to hear some stories of your own experiences or someone you personally know that can either inspire others or that you have found inspirational.

They don't have to be horse related, or life altering as sometimes you just look at people who have faced severe adversity and it only serves to make you think there is NO WAY you could even come close.

Not to belittle their accomplishments, just to say that they are so incredibly amazing that it would be a huge leap for you to make.

I'm thinking more of baby steps which is something we can all try...something normal like overcoming a fear, self talk, a weight problem or improving one's life situation. Even if they failed in their quest perhaps it is the fortitude of their spirit in trying and never giving up that made you try harder and played a role in your eventual success....

“You spend your whole life with horses and just about the time you think you have them figured out, a horse comes along that tells you otherwise.” –quote from my very wizened trainer

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post #2 of 20 Old 01-05-2017, 01:53 PM
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It's important to indulge in feelings once in a while, because if you only focus on facts and reason, the world gets a little bit more boring each time. Like myths, myths are fun to read, but if humans hadn't imagined them and just went with science, we'd have nothing to read.
My greatest motivations come from people who say I can't, not the people who say I can.
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What a fantastic idea for a thread, Reiningdogsandcats :)
And, more importantly, huge kudos and congratulations to your daughter! Her fitness is incredible and, truly, she is an inspiration! Thank you so much for sharing c:

I can't wait to read other people's stories <3

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Not really a story still thinking about that but will add a saying:

Always remember a lone amateur built the ark, a group of professionals built the titanic.
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post #5 of 20 Old 01-05-2017, 04:28 PM
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In my 60 years of trying to accomplish things, I have accumulated the following wisdom:

1. When setting goals, try not to confuse impressing others, or camaraderie with a group, with what would give you deep pleasure and a sense of triumph. That's a lot trickier than it sounds. I'm not saying don't try for public triumphs and friendships based on shared interests. Just don't get confused about why you are doing something.

2. Be patient and do a little bit every day. Celebrate even the tiniest progress. And learning from a bad mistake is, in fact, progress.

4. Sometimes, letting go of a goal will turn out to be the necessary next step on the path. Grieving is okay, when that happens.

5. If the path to your goal is not, itself, satisfying and enjoyable, that's a sign you need a different goal.

6. There are no real goals. In reality, there is only path. Om.

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Here is a quote from Booker T. Washington:

I have learned that success is to be measured not so much by the position that one has reached in life as by the obstacles which he has overcome while trying to succeed.

If you look for truth, you may find comfort in the end; if you look for comfort, you will not get either comfort or truth; only soft soap and wishful thinking to begin, and in the end, despair. -C.S. Lewis
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There are too many good stories. I am often inspired by people in the PRCA and WPRA world. How about the 69 year old woman who won the Barrel Racing World Championship this past year?
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And the nature boy Ric Flair today deadlift 400 pounds at 67. Boy I sure am sounding red a lot lately.

I don't watch 'hassling btw, just saw it on yahoo.
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In my 60 years of trying to accomplish things, I have accumulated the following wisdom:

1. When setting goals, try not to confuse impressing others, or camaraderie with a group, with what would give you deep pleasure and a sense of triumph. That's a lot trickier than it sounds. I'm not saying don't try for public triumphs and friendships based on shared interests. Just don't get confused about why you are doing something.
This. A goal is not a goal if you don't do it for yourself. If anyone out there is doing it for this reason, you are doing it for the wrong reason.

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post #10 of 20 Old 01-06-2017, 01:27 AM
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Reiningcatsandogs, this is an outstanding idea.

I'll share one of my own stories. Going on three years ago I ruptured my pectoralis major tendon through a freak incident. I didn't rupture the tendon completely but the partial rupture resulted in the splitting of the pec major (basically in half). If you managed to read that without flinching, congratulations. I still cringe at the memory.

Two doctors told me that it was just a muscle strain and that resting it would result in it healing so I let it rest. I doubted the initial diagnosis after about a month because this felt nothing like a muscle stain and it certainly wasn't acting like one. After a long process of getting in to see a specialist I was told that I had actually ruptured the tendon and it was too late to fix it.

I spent a few months feeling sorry for myself but after some time I managed to find myself again and realized that I wasn't going to let this stop me from doing what I wanted to do as a career. My chosen career isn't competitive weight lifting (although that would be cool) but it involves a lot of physical activity and strength. I decided that I would prove to myself that my injury wasn't going to hold me back from my dreams. I also set out to prove to the world that just because you have an injury or disability doesn't mean that you can't work towards your dreams. You can't let your injury or disability control how you run your life. It doesn't define who you are.

Yes, I've had to compensate on some form at times but as time has passed I'm finding that I can still do most everything that I could do before when it came to exercising. I focus a lot of my workouts on my chest in order to strengthen my weak shoulder and chest and improve my overall upper body strength. And after not being able to do push-ups for about a year I now find that I can do at least 37 in one minute (and yes, I use good form). And I'm working towards doing even more than that.

My life policy is when you reach a point where you can't push on anymore, push for one more repetition. I usually sum it up into the phrase "And one for Chesty." Some of you will understand the reference others will not.

Some other words of wisdom that I've acquired over the years are "Whether you think you can or you can't, you're right." and "The words 'can't' and 'cannot' should not be in your vocabulary."

Another one of my favorite stories is this one.

Girl Who Can't Feel Legs Due To MS Pursues Dreams Of Running Track (Video)

"And somewhere in the northwoods darkness a creature walks upright. And the best advice you may ever get is: Don't go out at night..."

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