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        12-14-2010, 01:41 PM
      #21
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    Show, Here's another thought;
    Is this the right horse for you?

    I do NOT see the point of having a horse that scares you just because one day he may have some great potential for showing. In the meantime, you find each encounter with him to be so stressful that it hurts? It's normal to have some fear of horses. I venture to guess near about every rider has that. I have a low running amount all the time. But it's the kind that makes me aware and careful of horses, not so much that I feel sick with fear. When I feel that kind of fear, I know that this is not my country, so to speak.
    Dealing with a horse that rears on the lunge line and runs into/over you on the ground . .. are things that you will need help with . You cannot magically overcome them on your own.
    I would recommend you get a trainer to work with both of you. If you cannot get to a place where the fear is low, then I would consider selling him and looking for a horse that BUILDS confidence rather than tearing it down.

    You would be amazed at how much better of a rider you would become if you have a horse that you can lead, physically and mentally. It's true that with help from a good teacher (who can teach humans too) you may learn how to step over the small line that keeps you below this horse in his eyes and go above him in the totem pole, but if you are only faking it, horses usually know. They are masters at telling when the feeling is not sincere.

    Have you thought about seeking a horse that better fits your personality? There is no shame in this. I would not like a horse that makes me feel like I am always on the edge. Some folks like that excitement and challenge. No thank you. I want to have fun, not fear.
         
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        12-14-2010, 02:59 PM
      #22
    Foal
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    Originally Posted by tinyliny    
    Show, Here's another thought;
    Is this the right horse for you?

    I do NOT see the point of having a horse that scares you just because one day he may have some great potential for showing. In the meantime, you find each encounter with him to be so stressful that it hurts? It's normal to have some fear of horses. I venture to guess near about every rider has that. I have a low running amount all the time. But it's the kind that makes me aware and careful of horses, not so much that I feel sick with fear. When I feel that kind of fear, I know that this is not my country, so to speak.
    Dealing with a horse that rears on the lunge line and runs into/over you on the ground . .. are things that you will need help with . You cannot magically overcome them on your own.
    I would recommend you get a trainer to work with both of you. If you cannot get to a place where the fear is low, then I would consider selling him and looking for a horse that BUILDS confidence rather than tearing it down.

    You would be amazed at how much better of a rider you would become if you have a horse that you can lead, physically and mentally. It's true that with help from a good teacher (who can teach humans too) you may learn how to step over the small line that keeps you below this horse in his eyes and go above him in the totem pole, but if you are only faking it, horses usually know. They are masters at telling when the feeling is not sincere.

    Have you thought about seeking a horse that better fits your personality? There is no shame in this. I would not like a horse that makes me feel like I am always on the edge. Some folks like that excitement and challenge. No thank you. I want to have fun, not fear.

    BRAVO!! Starting off on a bad foot is not the greatest of situations....there are plenty of fishes in the sea...find one that suits you otherwise you will end up miserable and not enjoy the time you have to ride (from someone who knows this all too well and has since changed it)
         
        12-14-2010, 04:35 PM
      #23
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    Originally Posted by OffTheTrack    
    BRAVO!! Starting off on a bad foot is not the greatest of situations....there are plenty of fishes in the sea...find one that suits you otherwise you will end up miserable and not enjoy the time you have to ride (from someone who knows this all too well and has since changed it)

    Thanks you so much for the replys back, I tried to sell this horse a while back now and he was frantic being away from home he went off to his new home and he just wouldnt settle he wont settle with anyone but me, It sounds crazy but he knows where his home is..

    I always think about what it would be like to have a horse that clicks I have a few horses so I don't get fully let down about this one, Like I am shattered at times ill go out there once im like yeah ill just hop on get me vest and helmet ready go down to his paddock and his lame :( I have no luck with horses whats so ever.

    Me and this horse " bond " 110 % on the ground I have just put one of my other horses up for sale :( to fund for training into this said horse, I know we can work it out as a team but I think its better if I get a trainer in so we can all work as a team.

    As of to night I am starting this horse back in work, My boyfriend has offered to lead me around for 5 mins then let me have a 5 min ride I have his full support witch is great !!!

    His got the additude that he can be left for month's on end and bring in that has been done before,

    I am thinking once I put some training into him I will take each min as it comes I am not getting my hopes up again that im going to have a good horse at the end of this because there is no promises, Jus going to take it slow.

    But I must say im nealy falling off my chair with happyness to ride him to night
         
        12-14-2010, 10:36 PM
      #24
    Gus
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    Sooooooo how did it go?!?!?!?! TELL ME HAHAHAHA no seriously tell me!
         

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