My Grandparents were never the ones to punish me. It was always my own parents, which to me as a child was a far scarier thought. At the end of the day, I was going home with my parents! I'm not trying to insult anyone's way of raising children here but it sounds odd to me that you would have a child go get their own implement for their physical punishment (in regards to "I had to go cut my own switch on numerous occasions"). Besides for ONE memory of my mom threatening to spank me and maybe being spanked once as a child, I wasn't physically punished. It was always verbal and the farthest my parents had to go with me were threatening to take away something I liked. As a child, when I got the "look" I knew to behave or else!
Sorry for randomly popping in but I just wanted to add my two cents to that.
Cinder I agree, parents should be the ones to teach their children. But, it's the grandparents who should teach their children (the parents) how.
Just this weekend I was at a family function at my in-laws and a 10 month old was trying to play with a lamp AND pull it off a table by the cord. The parents kept telling the kid "no no, no no, no no, no no, no no....." I wanted to run over there and say a STERN NO! Move the kid off and be done with it, but I would be crucified if I did so. It was Grandmas place, supposedly the matriarch of the family, to show the parents HOW to deal with it. I did step in after a while of this (parents were too busy shoving their face) and moved the lamp and told the kid NO. Done deal. I got dirty looks but the kid didn't go back over there.
There was also an 11 year old boy there that wanted to roughly wrestle with my 7 year old daughter. Ummm, NO! When they got started his dad was eating, sitting RIGHT next to the kids and he did NOTHING. I had to step in and tell them all that that type of behavior was NOT acceptable, especially in a room full of people.
I have a 2 year old nephew that barely says 1 word, uh oh. His parents play games all day and hardly talk to the kid. I've brought up his speech development with his parents, to my parents, and TRUST me if it were my kid they would be all over me. For him, not so much, they just say "different strokes for different folks." "Not my place", yadda yadda. The entire family is responsible for the rest. I wasn't rude to my brother and SIL, but all the kid can say is "Ahhhhhhhh Uhhhhhhh!!!!!!!!"
It takes an entire family to raise a family, something that isn't being done today.