Join Date: Aug 2009
Location: Ontario, Canada
Foim what In have read, she said the boy was violent and had severe emotional issues(duh, he's a 7yr old Russian orphan!). She also said that he had said he wanted to burn the house down with his parents in it. Even so, in my mind this is no excuse. If she was expecting a normal, balanced child with no issues she was living in la-la land. I feel it was her responsibility to seek all the help necessary for the child. It just seems as though she no longer wanted to put in the effort.
What gets me is that she just chucked the kid on a plane with a note in his pocket that basicly said "He's your problem now!". I understand that the child was most likely extremely difficult to deal with, but gimme a break! Once you sign those papers it's the same as if you had birthed him yourself - he's the adoptive parents responsibility. The woman in question feels as though the Russian agency lied about the emotional state of the child and misrepresented him in order to "get rid of him". I suppose it is possible, but despite this I still don't see how putting the poor kid on a plane back into a bad situation is a good option! There have been several cases where Russian children have died violent deaths at the hands of their adoptive US parents. It's becoming obvious that there are major problems with the adoption process between the two countries and I for one think it might be a good idea to stop the adoptions until they can work out the kinks - for the sake of those poor children!
~Lindsay~ Mom of 2, wife to the goldsmith, doula and childbirth educator in training, life-long horse dork