Originally Posted by shesinthebarn
Foim what In have read, she said the boy was violent and had severe emotional issues(duh, he's a 7yr old Russian orphan!). She also said that he had said he wanted to burn the house down with his parents in it. Even so, in my mind this is no excuse. If she was expecting a normal, balanced child with no issues she was living in la-la land. I feel it was her responsibility to seek all the help necessary for the child. It just seems as though she no longer wanted to put in the effort.
What gets me is that she just chucked the kid on a plane with a note in his pocket that basicly said "He's your problem now!". I understand that the child was most likely extremely difficult to deal with, but gimme a break! Once you sign those papers it's the same as if you had birthed him yourself - he's the adoptive parents responsibility. The woman in question feels as though the Russian agency lied about the emotional state of the child and misrepresented him in order to "get rid of him". I suppose it is possible, but despite this I still don't see how putting the poor kid on a plane back into a bad situation is a good option! There have been several cases where Russian children have died violent deaths at the hands of their adoptive US parents. It's becoming obvious that there are major problems with the adoption process between the two countries and I for one think it might be a good idea to stop the adoptions until they can work out the kinks - for the sake of those poor children!
Wouldn't say it better! I think you should really be extremely sure before starting to adopt. Just a question: how easy it's adopt from Russia or other foreign countries in USA? Does the authorities follow how things will be organized?
Justsambam: I guess these children would absolutely need proper teaching in English so they can get into a society and catch a normal rhythm of life... Learning the main language is a key to a society. If I were a parent, I'd still try to find a therapist/counsellor who speak the child's language as his/her 1st language or at least knows it properly. Your native language is a language for your emotions and feelings and coming from a different culture/language, there aren't always words for the things you want to say in your new culture.
Didn't experience that myself but I once had to do a research about exile for my studies and especially one of the books I read gave some view to me. I'd say it's kinda same, most of those refugees come from areas full of crises, don't know the language and perhaps can't read or write.