Within a single thread where advice is requested, there can be such differing points of view.
So as to not touch close to home, I will use a scuba forum I also belong to.
It if very common for someone to post about gear and find that there are two, maybe three STRONG opinions about that gear.
Group 1 - YOU WILL DIE IF YOU USE THAT BRAND (cuz it's not the brand I use and trust)
Group 2 - YOU WILL DIE IF YOU USE THAT IN SALT WATER (cuz I can't afford to travel to the BVI and Coz, so I am a purist about diving in lakes and quarries.)
Group 3 I love it and highly recommend the gear (because it's all I coould afford)
Um, who is right? The group that believes if it is not a particular brand of gear you will die or the group that uses the same gear regularly and lived to tell the story?
I have Googled so many topics related to horse ownership and have walked away wondering why anyone would own a horse. If they don't eat every 5 minutes they will colic. If they eat too much they will colic. If they stand on 3 legs with the right back leg further than 5 inches from the left back leg; colic.
My husband is about ready to take my ipad, iphone, and laptop away from me because every decision I make after researching I find valid arguments why my decision was a poor one. And then I freak out.
My innards have been twisted in knots over the recent decisions to move to a new barn, buy a horse trailer (That one is causing me loss of sleep) and buy a new saddle because there are SO many people with very strong feelings about their beliefs.
I was reading about horse trailers on another forum, and OMGOODNESS don't go there. If it is not a 3 horse slant gooseneck with a self-loading conveyer that has lined and padded walls, A/C for the horses, an emergency exit, pneumatic shocks and brakes, and TV so the horses don't get bored or lonely tooling down the highway THEY WILL DIE. If You can't buy this type of trailer - DON'T BUY ONE. Save your money until you can afford a trailer worth more than some people's homes.
I am ready to wrap Sam in bubble wrap the next time I load him onto a trailer I am so frightened.
It is frustrating to read someone who is obviously making careless decisions (I love the OPs analogy of breeding a mini to a 16h horse).
My way of making sense of the original poster's question. For the people that want reassurance, it is easy to take away all confidence. For the people that just want to stir the pot; it is easy to give them a show to watch.
Before the Internet, you had to go to the library or buy a book or you received advice from one or two select people you hoped had more knowledge than you. The differing opinions were limited and the fly-by "hey how do I do this" wasn't invited yet.
(And some people don't listen because they just can't afford to listen. Some solutions cost real money).
Can someone pass the popcorn please?