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post #1 of 21 Old 07-27-2010, 07:53 PM Thread Starter
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Young people ache too.

I was just reading the "flexible/jointed irons" thread and the "old" folks were saying that the "youngin's" just don't understand the aches of being old, [[NOTE: This is NOT directed at the members posting in that thread!!]] and it got me thinking. Actually, I've always been thinking about this. I'm 20 years old, and I'm sure I'm lumped into that "youngin" group. That's fine by me.

But about four years ago, I took a bad fall off a mare while jumping. I stuck the landing of a ridiculous jump [=D] but about five strides after I just couldn't get my seat back. So I fell over the mare's shoulder, landed hard on my back, rolled in the direction I thought was away from the horse but was in fact towards her, and then this mare proceeded to run me over. Oh, the pain.

To this day, my back ACHES. Some days I can hardly move, others it's a pretty dull pain that's easy to ignore. It gets better when I ride [the movement, I think, loosens it up] and it gets worse the longer I go without riding.

So while in the break room at work, I'll be talking to a friend about how my back is particularly bothering me today [especially lately since my mare is out of work], and some older lady eavesdropping will laugh about how I "don't know pain yet." O_o Really? And they continue to laugh and joke amongst the other old women while I explain [politely, of course], "I took a pretty bad fall off a horse once, and it messed my back up pretty good."

Yes, I understand that the body will ache as you age, and I respect that. And I don't doubt that these women do ache. But I also understand that because my back is already screwed up, aging for me is going to be a nightmare. If it hurts this bad now, I can only imagine how much it'll hurt 20 years from now. =|

I just don't understand why these older folk will LAUGH at me and make jokes. I'm not a silly little girl, I never have been. The people I work with directly know that. I don't go upstairs and cry and whine about my back. I sit next to a friend and say [to my friend], "Ricci really needs to get better, my back's been killing me lately." And all of a sudden, I find myself clumped with all the whiny teenage girls that I've never been.

Ugh, it just really grinds my gears.


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post #2 of 21 Old 07-27-2010, 08:35 PM
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I understand. Though I am a little older than you (26) I am still pretty much a member of the "young-un" group. I have broken both arms (one of them very badly), dislocated shoulders and hips, been bucked off on my head (which screwed up my back and neck in one fell swoop), and taken more falls than I care to remember. There are days that the only way I can get to sleep is to take a painkiller because my back or my hips or my arm is aching so bad. I actually jumped down the throat of an older woman where I used to work because I took an Aleve in front of her and she made a little snide comment about "poor little girl, has to take a pill for every little twinge". I proceeded to get in her face and ask her if she had ever landed on her head from a fall from 6+ feet or hit the ground at 30 mph or shattered the bones in her arm to the point that it would never be fully functional again. Haha, she didn't talk to me much after that.

I don't know if it is a difference in culture or whether they just don't remember if they had days when they hurt. My Mom sometimes talks about when she was growing up in the 50's and 60's that girls were expected to be proper and lady-like all the time. Anything that was considered a "boy thing" was strictly forbidden because it was 'too rough for a girl's delicate constitution' . As a result, she had a much more protected and injury free youth than I did. She didn't break her first bone until she was like 40 .

Whenever anybody laughs at me and says "Well, you're still young. You'll realize what pain is in a few years", I just smile to myself and think 'Yeah, maybe, but I bet I have lived a fuller life in my 26 years than you have your 50.'

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Haha, I'm glad I'm not the only one that feels that way then. Although you probably hurt more than me, it's just my back, lol. Sometimes it's hard not to get rude about it, especially when I can't stand these people anyway. I know I'll be hurting way worse when I reach that age than most of them do. Not that I'm the only one to have beaten myself up, and I'm sure there are older folk who are in the same boat I will be in. It's just very frustrating.

Lately, I made a comment about finding a chiropractor my insurance will cover, and so many people said I was too young to worry about it, don't waste my money, blah blah blah. At this point, I usually just smile and nod, then roll my eyes as I walk away, haha. =]

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I hurt my lower back very badly in a riding accident when I was 30. Because of that accident I've had constant lower back/pelvic pain for the last 22 years.

It's also the reason I have to use a mounting block, since I can't lift my leg high enough to get in the saddle from the ground anymore.

Yes, if you screw yourself up when you're young, it can and does hurt. And yes, it's only going to get worse as you get older, but that doesn't mean it doesn't really hurt now. All it means is that unfortunately, you're having a 50 y/o's pain before your time.

I do not denigrate pain in anyone, regardless of age. It's a very real factor for riders of all ages.
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post #5 of 21 Old 07-28-2010, 12:53 PM
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I, too, had a fall a while back that has me in severe pain just about every other day. I was thirteen, and it was just a simple buck-off. I landed on my left side, and I don't know what happened physically, but it has messed my left hip and both knees. The doctor said my hip was very deeply bruised, and that he felt if I had hit any harder I probably would have fractured my hip. He thought that my left knee had temorarily dislocated on impact, and who knows about my right knee. My hip hurts me more than anything. It pops with every step I take, even when it's not hurting. Some mornings I wake up and it's excruciating, others it doesn't hurt unless i'm forced to walk for awhile. Same for my knees. I'm seventeen, so it always has me worried that if the pain escalates I won't be able to ride as an adult. Hip replacement, here I come!
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I'm only sixteen and already have minor arthritis in my right knee.

**** Clydesdale kicked me right in the kneecap when I was eight, and then I knocked the same knee incredibly hard in to a barrel when the horse I was running cut too close.

I still run everyday and put lots of force on it, I just have to wear an athletic knee brace.

But, I have to suck it up so it doesn't mess up my chances of getting in to the Army! lol.

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post #7 of 21 Old 07-28-2010, 01:41 PM
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I don't want anyone to think I'm making light of the aches and pains (lord knows I have my share too) but I am smiling because of the comparison of older people/ younger people.

Since I am age wise in the older people category, I don't think I truly fit since I'm not one to grip/complain about aches and pains. I'm grateful for what I'm able to do, yes at a price sometimes, and try to take care of myself so I can do things I enjoy for years to come.

I have a friend who is 86 and still rides. He just had a partial hip replacement and you'd never know it by how he moves. His attitude is to be admired and copied. I enjoy our time together and always come away with some useful insight about life. The latest is you can't live your life by ifs. To do so means you'd never truly live your life. I just loved that one!

Anyway, let me just wrap this up with a little story about a trail ride I was on and Earl (my friend) was there too. There were about 20 plus riders and we had been riding for about 6 1/2 hours. By this time my butt was just killing me (**** prominent seat bones!). I looked around me wondering if anyone else was aching. So, I announced that I was hurting and lo and behold, each and every rider began to list their aches and pains. Everyone but Earl . He just rode up next to me with a bit of a smirk and said, "Well, now look what you've started." Okay, yes deep inside I was happy that I wasn't the only one hurting, but I got the message. LOL! He was happy to be with the group no matter the aches and pains. Gotta love that attitude.

So, RiccilOve, maybe you need to be around much older people like Earl. LOL! Us in betweens can sometimes forget to be grateful for what we can do, and yes, maybe deep down we're a bit envious of your youth and to have those years back. But, we forget that even the "youngins" have aches and pains due to a variety of reasons. Aches and pains are not limited to the older crowd.

Sorry for the novel, just wanted to share a smile.

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We have a mandatory medical check every year at my job.

Two years ago the doctor told me " have some spine issues. You'll have back problems when you get older"

I said to myself "Yeah, well who doesn't" and postponed the "when you get older" somewhere around the age of 50 or so.

Well the next year, I just got up from bed and this huge pain starting from my lower back and extending to my left leg and up to my rib cage hit me. I could not even breath and I was also bent sideways with no chance of getting back up and vertical.

My problematic vertebrae had pinched a spinal nerve. You cannot imagine how annoying that pain is. You feel like some 80's rock superstar guitar.
With massage and therapy gymnastics I got back to my biped status, however I'll never forget that "when you get older" can actually mean "tomorrow" sometimes
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I'm 29 and have been having pretty severe knee/hip pain for the last 10 years or so. I got a joint infection when I was 18 that for some reason was localized in my hips/knees and I've had pain ever since. My hip muscles are also very weak which allows my femur to "wiggle" around further screwing up my knees and causing additional hip pain. Thankfully there are some exercises I can do to decrease the amount of pain, but I'm sure it'll just get worse as I get older.

Occaisionally I have some tendonitis (not diagnosed) flare ups in my shoulders/elbows. This is usually in the winter and makes sleeping very uncomfortable because I have a tendency to sleep on my side which aggravates my shoulder.

I'm not looking forward to 50 that's for sure.
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I am 19 and I have terrible knees (already). I have to get physio on them usually about once per year, they often buckle under me when I'm just walking, and a lot of the time they hurt to a point where walking is nearly unbearable.

I get the exact same thing as you, I totally understand where you are coming from.
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