I think suicide is a horrible thing:( Why should someone kill themself when God created them in their own special way? I do not see how someone could do it- imagine leaving all your loved ones behind, and how much emotional and mental stress you will put on them. Plus, there are so many opportunities these days to get help. And I don't see how someone couldn't enjoy life (unless in a very bad situation~ but then again, there are many opportunities for help), that's just my opinion on it though :)
Your right, you HAVENT been there. Its such a dark place you don't worry about your loved ones, because most times, you don't think anyone loves you/even wants you around. Its not about the stress on them, its the horrible stress and mental ache/pain in you that's so very consuming you can't think of anything but it or really do anything at all but lie depressed in your own woe.
Its impossible to enjoy life when you are so down you are going to end your own life. Help seems worthless or scary or weak, unlike the quick fix of just leaving this world that seems to be the only way out of this horrible situation. You feel baited to end your life by the constant hits your mental stability keeps taking from bad things (or what you percieve to be so bad) happening to you.
They say suicide is a permanant fix to a temporary situation but when you are in the clutchs of deep depression bordering on suicide the problems seem ANYTHING but temporary, you can't imagine being happy or even content ever again or that you ever were. This world doesnt seem worth it, it seems like a place of torture you can't wait to get out of enough you would take it in your own hands to do so.
I know, trust me. I've been there. Not actually killed myself (obviously) but I've been close and have had expierences with family members. I understand WHY people do. Its horribly sad, but sometimes seems neccesary to people, and I understand that.
I don't think people who commit sucide are neccesary wrong so much as just done with it all, its ultimatly their life, theirs to end if they JUST CAN'T go on any longer without losing their minds or not being able to get out of bed the next morning from the hurt of it all, theirs to end if they JUST CAN'T take it. I don't think they should go to Hell for that, no way, no how.
"Depression is not a sign of weakness but a sign you've been strong for to long"
I'm not attacking you, I'm just saying its SO different and easier to understand when you've been there.