but the thing is, some of the people on here are incredibly rude to others who ask for advice. I read something somene said about how most people just ask so they dont have to do their own research, well I made a post about my new horse that has a pushy attitude at times. Sure, I haven't researched yet but the reason I made the post was to ask Experienced Horse People what they have done in the past, rather then find out from other people who could be wrong, who knows. I think we need to be more willing to listen and understand before judging as I asked for peoples opinion and I had a member tell me that I should buy a dog instead. Not sure where exactly I'm going with this now..
So yes, some people dont deserve to own horses, but there are so many that try, no scratch that, they give their heart and all the coins in their pocket to keeping the horse happy and healthy. So dont judge everyone buy how mmuch money they have.
I understand where you are coming from. In my opinion, and what has been my experience here is that some people on forum jump to negative conclusions or react to something in a post and it takes off from there. Of course, there are a few rude people on every forum, but for the most part people here seem to be very helpful. Sometimes I will PM a member that I respect to get information.
I try to put myself in their place and it helps. For example, I am a member of another nonhorse forum for my profession in which I have 23 years of experience. When a new person in the profession posts a question that I think is, well, something that is common sense or that they should know without asking, or something they should have learned in school, etc. my first reaction is not positive, but it wouldn't be a good idea to blast them for asking, either. Might refer them to a resource or let a more generous and patient forum member answer their question.
Anyway, seems like you know what you are doing in terms of horse ownership, and good luck with your first horse! Please update us and post pics!