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post #1 of 8 Old 09-07-2012, 10:59 PM Thread Starter
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Am I Overreacting? *Rant*

A little background:
Since November of 2011 I've been working for a trainer on average 4 days a week, 8-10 hours a day. The beginning of this week, I quit after a few weeks of talking things over with her. She knew that I wasn't going to be able to work for her much longer if at all, for a multitude of reasons, but mainly financial (I was working for peanut halves, so to speak) and medical. I got hired as a waitress full time just recently, and was excited to tell her that I could afford to PAY her for lessons in the future, starting in a few weeks. She seemed thrilled for me to have a decent job (my last big money-maker was pretty sketch) and to still want to work with her.


Well, today I found out that she had apparently changed the lock combo to her tack room. Not from her, but from the other lady who still grooms for her (who also has been having the same problems with the trainer).

Okay, so she doesn't want me keeping any of my stuff in her tack room since I don't work for her anymore, even though I'm still planning on buying lessons. Fine. Everything of mine was out the day I quit, within an hour. Nothing of mine has been in there since, aside from hanging my car keys on one of the inside hooks while I ride so they don't jingle everywhere. So she doesn't want me using her fly spray or equipment anymore. Fine. I haven't been, even though she offered up one of her old saddles to use until I can buy one that fits my horse. I even went out and bought some emergency materials of my own that same day so I wouldn't end up using ANY of her products, because I felt that it would be a little unfair to assume at this point. The only thing I was using in her tack room was the mini-fridge, and ONLY while I was there-I made a point not to leave anything there overnight so as not to be rude.

So my question is this:
Why the heck would she change the dang lock combo on me when I've gone from employee to client? All of her other clients have access to her tack room, just apparently not the one who's been working her @$$ off for nearly ten months for almost nothing? Alright, so I haven't bought any lessons YET, I get that, but I don't get the feeling that it would even matter at this point. I think I would literally be her only client with ZERO access to any of her space, which doesn't make me particularly comfortable continuing with her. I feel like she's being very passive-aggressive because I left the position when she didn't have a full time replacement, which is entirely not my fault!

I feel pretty betrayed right now, but am I justified or just being crazy? I kinda hope I'm just crazy, because that would be a lot easier to get over. Sorry for the book.
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post #2 of 8 Old 09-08-2012, 12:17 AM
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Yes, you are over-reacting

If you had a key to the lock on the tack room, you would have given it back when you stopped working there. Think of this as exactly the same and don't fret anymore about it.

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How do you know she changed it because of you?
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you are not justified. You don't work there, nor are you a customer. Why on earth do you think you deserve access and free use of supplies ?
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It's pretty common practice to change combos or keys after someone quits. Once you buy some lessons she'll probably give you the combo again. In the meantime, you're just out there visiting and don't need access to her stuff.
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Sorry OP, but I really think you need to stop taking things personally. It's just good business practice to change locks when an employee leaves, even if they're still on good terms with the owner. Think about it this way; if something goes missing, she'll know it couldn't have been you.

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Yeah, about 30 minutes after writing that I pretty much got over it lol. It was pretty silly, and a lot of things got to me that day.
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A little background:
Since November of 2011 I've been working for a trainer on average 4 days a week, 8-10 hours a day. The beginning of this week, I quit after a few weeks of talking things over with her. She knew that I wasn't going to be able to work for her much longer if at all, for a multitude of reasons, but mainly financial (I was working for peanut halves, so to speak) and medical. I got hired as a waitress full time just recently, and was excited to tell her that I could afford to PAY her for lessons in the future, starting in a few weeks. She seemed thrilled for me to have a decent job (my last big money-maker was pretty sketch) and to still want to work with her.


Well, today I found out that she had apparently changed the lock combo to her tack room. Not from her, but from the other lady who still grooms for her (who also has been having the same problems with the trainer).

Okay, so she doesn't want me keeping any of my stuff in her tack room since I don't work for her anymore, even though I'm still planning on buying lessons. Fine. Everything of mine was out the day I quit, within an hour. Nothing of mine has been in there since, aside from hanging my car keys on one of the inside hooks while I ride so they don't jingle everywhere. So she doesn't want me using her fly spray or equipment anymore. Fine. I haven't been, even though she offered up one of her old saddles to use until I can buy one that fits my horse. I even went out and bought some emergency materials of my own that same day so I wouldn't end up using ANY of her products, because I felt that it would be a little unfair to assume at this point. The only thing I was using in her tack room was the mini-fridge, and ONLY while I was there-I made a point not to leave anything there overnight so as not to be rude.

So my question is this:
Why the heck would she change the dang lock combo on me when I've gone from employee to client? All of her other clients have access to her tack room, just apparently not the one who's been working her @$$ off for nearly ten months for almost nothing? Alright, so I haven't bought any lessons YET, I get that, but I don't get the feeling that it would even matter at this point. I think I would literally be her only client with ZERO access to any of her space, which doesn't make me particularly comfortable continuing with her. I feel like she's being very passive-aggressive because I left the position when she didn't have a full time replacement, which is entirely not my fault!

I feel pretty betrayed right now, but am I justified or just being crazy? I kinda hope I'm just crazy, because that would be a lot easier to get over. Sorry for the book.
I see why you're upset. What I would look into is confirm why the lock change was made, because it's not really clear at this point if the lock change was even done because of you. Could it be it was not even related to you? Might someone have been abusing her tack room, therefor her wanting to lock it? Is it now off access to everyone, not just you? Was it changed for an entirely different reason?

When looking at the picture with the info you did give, technically speaking if you no longer work for her, whether or not you're paying for lessons already, or not-it is her tack room so she can do as she sees fit.

I can see how it could be easy to take the change personally, but I would encourage looking into this further and see why the change was made.
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