Reading this thread gives me comfort - knowing I'm not the only one who has allowed myself to be used and abused and then feeling bad about leaving.
Today was the straw that broke the camel's back. I went to the barn to give my horse a bath. Of course there's no good area to give her a bath. The only two places for me to tie my horse, period, are two rings - one on each side of the big door going into the barn, and one ring is right next to an electric fence and the other is right next to a big table with a potted plant on it. It's a very high traffic area and it's not paved and give a bath creates a lot of mud.
There are many more appropriate places on the property where rings could be placed, where a horse could be tied to be bathed in peace but no - that just can't happen for some reason.
So I'm giving her a bath and she's stomping and making mud but we're generally having a pretty nice peaceful time and the owner comes out and the moment she gets close to my horse, my horse starts getting upset and nervous, bouncing around and making me nervous too. This has been a problem since day #1. Every time I'm having a nice peaceful time with my horses, she comes out and upsets them. They hate her. So then the owner starts yelling at my horse for making mud, and then she asks me to move my truck because her husband has to bring the hay wagon in (through the door we're standing right next to of course). So then of course I have to untie and move my horse, who is covered in soap - and I can't finish washing her because I can't tie her up anywhere! So the owner holds her for a while but then her husband starts yelling at her that she needs to help him put the hay away and I have to very quickly rinse off my half washed cremello and send her off streaked with mud.
I can not deal with these people anymore. I swear the woman is extremely passive aggressive and will do anything and everything to prevent me from being able to care for and enjoy my horses.