Well, I hope things go better for you now. I guess I react strongly to the dead cat thing because I am currently at war with my ex husband about his neighbors. His neighbors have been a chronic problem since he moved into that place - they have a hastily erected fence held together with duct tape and bailing twine, with about a dozen dogs in their yard, which runs right alongside my ex's driveway, when I dropped my son off for visitation a few weeks back, a dog went right through the fence and charged my son (who is 6). I told my ex then he needed to talk to the neighbors - they also had several kittens wandering around that were with fly-bitten ears, flea and tick infested, and looked like they probably all had FIV. My ex didn't do anything, and last weekend, when I went to drop my son off, there was a dead kitten lying alongside my ex's driveway - it had obviously been tossed there, behind the woodpile. I refused to let my son out of the car, and left, called my ex on the way home and told him all visitation is suspended until he does something about his neighbors, or moves. My ex lives in a duplex with no yard, and the driveway is where he lets our son play, ride his bike, etc. I wont have him playing alongside dead, maggoty kittens, or at risk of being bitten by mismanaged, uncared for, likely disease ridden dogs. I just wont have it. Something has to be done. So your experience struck a chord with me, I'm sorry to jump to conclusions on the part of your BO.