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post #41 of 60 Old 02-13-2013, 03:17 AM Thread Starter
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No, I live on acreage and just sick of all the work. I was thinking how nice it would be to not have any chores for a change, but then again, we do like our privacy. I was also thinking how nice it would be to have the horses at a barn where your trainer is and not have to haul in all the time.
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Lol, exactly!
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post #44 of 60 Old 02-13-2013, 08:45 AM
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No, I live on acreage and just sick of all the work. I was thinking how nice it would be to not have any chores for a change, but then again, we do like our privacy. I was also thinking how nice it would be to have the horses at a barn where your trainer is and not have to haul in all the time.
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Yep, I'm at a self care facility now, but I have boarded at full care places and it was very nice not to have to wake up at 5:30 Every. single. morning. On the flip side, if you're anything like me and want things done a certain way, it can be difficult to find a place that does it well. The drama, IMO, is easy to avoid if you just keep under the radar.
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post #45 of 60 Old 02-13-2013, 03:53 PM
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Okay, barn drama. Rare at our barn unless you have the typical drama queen. The care at my barn is GREAT. I have a reasonable rate $150, with me working on the side as well. We have stalls for feedings, indoor, outdoor, access to trails, round pen, pond. Probably more I'm forgetting. For the drama I put up with it's so worth it! It all depends on the staff and BO, plus horses. I love my BO she's so helpful with advice and cares for the horses as their her own.

Now, onto the drama queen, may be a rant-ish. Well, she bought a show-horse (she doesn't show), push button, no personality, showing was all she did. It was drilled into her since she was 1 1/2. Most show horses have specific cues, she was trained for WP. DQ didn't realize this and ended up confusing her, she bucked her at a canter after she nailed her with a crop to her head? Not an excuse for said horse to buck but all she needed was that right heel a little behind the girth.

DQ also got mad when she was giving glucosamine (sp?) injections, we let her know she needed to draw back to insure she was in muscle. She went into a fit (literally) kicking and screaming. Saying how wrong the VET was and everyone else.

The newest, I sold her a Diamond Wool saddle pad, paid more $125 gave it to her for $50, she paid $45. Told her I needed the $5 or I was going to sell the pad. Never got $, so I sold it for more and gave her back $45. She's now leaving because of the drama and moving to a horrible barn. I do feel bad, sort of wish she would stay...but eh. We're still friends, but good riddance.

I think EVERY barn has their share of drama queens or kings in some places. I choose to stay away from drama, and prefer not to deal with it at all. It was to the point I was going to leave if she didn't. I am a very mature person as are all others at my barn, and chose to seldom deal with those who are not. I do get up early, and stay up later to feed and do chores, but that's my choice. I love being around the horses plus getting reduced board isn't bad either.

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post #46 of 60 Old 02-15-2013, 01:51 PM
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I boarded at a big time show barn where you or your horse had to be in part time training and the barn and the trainers both have huge reputations for being the best in their discipline. I boarded my mare there for some tuneup and refresher trainer and it struck me how the trainer kept such a kabosh on any drama. He had this theory that pettiness did not translate in to excellence. If he even heard a whisper of drama you would be picking rocks out of the pasture or hand walking horses (not your own), B/c you clearly didnt understand how to pay attention only to yourself and work as a team. Two incidents too close together and you were out of the barn and you must remove your horse by the following weekend.

He always had such a waiting list that he could afford such policy's, but he did tell me once that he would rather have a functioning well run barn then have a full barn. That he would rather have a grateful working student not paying board than a spoiled brat who was. That barn was awesome. It ran so smooth and there was NEVER any drama.

Conversely the last barn I boarded at was a smaller boarding barn of casual recreational older women and **** they were all catty. The barn owner was fantastic and sweet and b/c she avoided confrontation there was a very passive aggressive energy everyone carried. I had to leave b/c it was so horrible. That environment was what made me give up boarding and find my own farm.

Show barns don't necessarily mean drama and smaller doesn't mean drama-free. It comes down to the people and the expectation of attitudes.
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post #47 of 60 Old 02-16-2013, 12:28 AM
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I think it would be rare if there WAS NOT drama of some kind at a boarding place!

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Thank goodness my barn is tiny, with only one other "real" boarder, who is in her forties and owns four horses. The other owners are Tyler's estranged one and an elderly couple with a 46 year old appy, who don't actually pay board because they are close family friends of the BOs.

But we HAD two girls for a few months last year, and they were awful. One had recently bought a freshly off-the-track TB as her first horse, and the other had two of her six horses there. Both girls were very privileged, and the girl with six horses is uber wealthy and basically was the bane of my existence for months. Neither could control their horses AT ALL, which was why they were at the barn, and they almost got themselves and their horses killed multiple time. They also loooooved to gossip, and the richy-rich one specifically liked to bully me.They were eventually told to leave, which was wonderful. We had a little bit of a party the day after they left :P

Yeah . . . I'd rather not interact with my "peers", thank you very much. I can't really stand them.

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post #49 of 60 Old 02-19-2013, 11:48 AM
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I boarded at a fairly large military stable for about 20 years (about 60-75 horses) . I practically grew up there.

I know there was drama, but I stayed away from it all. My horses had the first 2 stalls closest to the back door of the south barn and I had my own private tack room. I didn't really socialize much with people, I was there to spend time with my horses, so I avoided much of the drama.

I had a few close friends that I chose to spend time with, but other than that I did my own thing.

I think any time there is a large group of people, especially women, there is going to be some drama. How you choose to react to it will make the difference in your boarding experience.
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post #50 of 60 Old 02-19-2013, 12:16 PM
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Drama happens at pretty much all barns. Wherever there is a large group of people (predominately women) you get it. I can liken the politics of the yard to that of a mostly female occupied office I once worked in.
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