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post #1 of 17 Old 05-19-2013, 08:35 PM Thread Starter
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Barn Gossip

I guess this is the correct place to post this.

How does everyone deal with barn gossip?

5 days ago my horse got hurt and the vet had to come out. In attendance to the vet was my mother, the barn hand, and myself. We were told to treat her injury just as a bad cut as it had not ruined any structure in her leg. The barn owner was home but did not come out because she cannot handle blood. The vet told us that 1 hour of round pen time was fine as long as she was not acting up. (i cannot ride her for a while)

Well today I went out to take care of her today and put her in the round pen for no longer than 2 minutes while I did something. Well, during that time someone saw me and "told on me", and when I walked her back inside to brush her I was confronted about it. I just acknowledged what she said and brushed it off, I did not mention permission from the vet, I guess I was just surprised and didn't want to start anything. None of these people were with me when the vet was there.

Well, I guess tonight as my husband (a horse newbie of sorts) went out to give her some love and attention, someone approached him and complained. He just explained what the vet had told us and that was that. Said person was not there this afternoon when all this happened, so I guess there is quite a bit of gossip going on?

I guess my question is how does everyone handle barn gossip? I am 26 and have been riding for 16 years and would NEVER EVER do anything to harm my horse, she is my baby!
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post #2 of 17 Old 05-19-2013, 09:50 PM
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Let em talk.

Apperently they aren't busy enough with their own life's. so yours can give em something to do.

Tell em to go kick rocks and do what you need to do.

Heck, be flattered that you're worth their attention.
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post #3 of 17 Old 05-19-2013, 11:41 PM
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Let them talk I have some what problem were im at the lady that just moved her horse tells the owner everything that happens to me at the barn like i need an ok an i dont i have been around horses all my life an im 28 an have broke horses since i was 16 an she treats me like a little kid even after she moved her horses down the road to his other pasture an i ride with them an if anything happens shes on phone with barn owner

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post #4 of 17 Old 05-19-2013, 11:43 PM
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Let 'em yap. And have a discussion with your hubby about not telling all he knows to everyone in the barn. They don't need to know what the vet said. Keep 'em guessing, it's good for 'em. LOL!
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post #5 of 17 Old 05-19-2013, 11:46 PM
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What I found works best to 'stem' barn gossip is to be very upfront with the BO so that any tattlers will show themselves up and even more up front with other boarders. My last barn was FULL of young teenage girls and the gossip was rife, thankfully I either scared those girls or gave them nothing to talk about.....either way I flew under the radar pretty much 99% of the time.
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post #6 of 17 Old 05-19-2013, 11:52 PM
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Hang on, think I’m misunderstanding something here. What do you mean? You were handling YOUR OWN horse and someone came and complained to you, and then your husband about it??? Is that what you are saying?
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post #7 of 17 Old 05-20-2013, 12:19 AM
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tell the gossips how it is , be assertive!, only problem would be is if u havent heard it from 1st party then u have no proof.

but with people telling u how to handle ur horse and what not, be assertive!!!!
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post #8 of 17 Old 05-20-2013, 12:21 AM
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For starters, I wouldn't board with a BO that can't handle blood! Horses are either hurt, or trying to get hurt. What's going to happen if your horse is seriously injured and there's no barn hand around? Is your horse going to bleed to death before the Vet arrives because the BO won't go help?

As far as gossip.... if you don't respond, they get bored and go harass someone else. I'm the permanent uh huh, mmmmm, oh... all in a distracted monotone as I keep right on doing what I was doing and not stopping or giving them the time of day.
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post #9 of 17 Old 05-20-2013, 12:26 AM
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Word, Delfina.
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post #10 of 17 Old 05-20-2013, 03:12 AM
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I can see the let them talk attitude but that's not my nature. I'd approach all of them and give them the vets advise. Better yet if you can find out who this is coming from and target them, it's usually one person.

If that's not your personality, and I'd guess it isn't then let them go, but they will keep going. Me I prefer to head them off. I stick the vets advise to my stall door with a big red circle and arrow and a note saying b1tch now!

I think bullies need a strong hand, it just depends on your personality and what you think you can do.
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