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post #11 of 17 Old 05-20-2013, 07:56 AM
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Also keep in mind where they're coming from. They're concerned about your horse. I'm sure a lot of people have seen a horse worked that probably shouldn't be. They don't know what your vet said or anything.

That being said, there's worse kinds of barn gossip to have. If anyone asks, tell them what your get said. Get the BO in involved and the barn hand too. Barn gossip is stupid and its definitely best dealt with but at least this isn't because of a stupider reason.
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post #12 of 17 Old 05-20-2013, 08:28 AM
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I've resigned myself to going to the barn, being friendly but using my time to focus on my horse. I can understand your concerns, we've all seen how the gossip spreads like wildfire - stand your ground when approached and tell them that 1) this is what the vet has said and 2) its your horse, and it really isn't their concern.

I've been on the receiving end of the gossip, I've been hurt by it. At the old yard I used to organise myself around when my "friends" were riding - now i focus on myself and what I need to do. i may not socialize as much, but at least I know I don't have to be involved in all the crap that comes with it.

Stop for a minute, open your mind, learn. You may not agree with what I say, I may not agree with what you say but we will both learn something new.
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Ditto on not keeping my horse with someone who can't handle blood.

I am confused though as to what exactly the gossip is.
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post #14 of 17 Old 05-20-2013, 12:00 PM
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Originally Posted by AlexS View Post
I can see the let them talk attitude but that's not my nature. I'd approach all of them and give them the vets advise. Better yet if you can find out who this is coming from and target them, it's usually one person.

If that's not your personality, and I'd guess it isn't then let them go, but they will keep going. Me I prefer to head them off. I stick the vets advise to my stall door with a big red circle and arrow and a note saying b1tch now!

I think bullies need a strong hand, it just depends on your personality and what you think you can do.
That's just going to escalate the gossip and if I was the BO, I would be asking the write of such an inflammatory note to please take their horse elsewhere!

Your horse is injured... are people talking? Sure... people talk about anything AND everything! The entire thing is probably a misunderstanding about someone feeling that in their opinion the horse should be locked up 24x7 whereas you are following your Vet's instructions. If anyone says anything else, just go "Oh she's doing just fine thank you, I'm taking care of her per the instructions from the Vet that treated her" and then turn and occupy yourself.

Furthermore, if it was your BO that confronted you about this, you REALLY need a new place to board. Not only is a BO that can't stand the sight of blood not doing anyone's horse any good but the BO should KNOW what the Vet's care orders are.

My BO isn't present for every Vet visit, she has a life and I certainly don't pay her enough to demand that she watch the Vet treat every lil boo boo or give my horse his annual checkup and go "well... I think we should change X, X and X and see how that goes" BUT my Vet either goes up to the house with me after and we'll all have a chat OR he calls her (if it's something big and she's not home) OR he'll write me up a page of instructions.

So when my horse gashed his foot open and I texted him pics, he had her on the phone before he even got there with instructions on preparing a stall, how he wanted him trailered (he was at my place right then, not the barn) and so on. The BO should never be out of the loop even if the care doesn't require her or her barn hands to do anything different than normal.
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post #15 of 17 Old 05-20-2013, 09:04 PM Thread Starter
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Thank you to everyone who replied. I have decided I should just stand my ground..I know what the vet told me and that I am only following orders. I'm a very very socially shy person so it hurt my feelings with all of this tattling on me even though I am only following directions.
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post #16 of 17 Old 05-20-2013, 09:07 PM Thread Starter
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Originally Posted by AnrewPL View Post
Hang on, think Iím misunderstanding something here. What do you mean? You were handling YOUR OWN horse and someone came and complained to you, and then your husband about it??? Is that what you are saying?

Correct. I was out with my horse and had her in the round pen for no more than 2 minutes. Then I came inside and was confronted. Later that night my husband was alone cleaning her stall ect because I had a headache and something was said to him.
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post #17 of 17 Old 05-20-2013, 09:10 PM
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Originally Posted by Moonlight Tango View Post
Correct. I was out with my horse and had her in the round pen for no more than 2 minutes. Then I came inside and was confronted. Later that night my husband was alone cleaning her stall ect because I had a headache and something was said to him.

I would be giving that person some advice, the advice would contain the letters "F" "O" followed by the phrase "and mind your own business".
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