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post #21 of 32 Old 12-02-2011, 11:41 AM
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I'm not saying that she should go in "guns-a-blazin". No matter who these people are, she needs to stand up for herself and let them know she is not happy with not getting the service she paid for. It sounds a little like you guys are intimidated by them - Don't think of it like high school where you don't want to offend the popular kids for fear of retaliation. At least one of these ladies knows the complete arrangement, and she needs to communicate it fully to everyone involved.

The meeting is for clarification, not to yell and scream.

For example, if I was in this situation.

"The Meeting"
Friend 1 - Hi
Me - Hello. My horse was supposed to be turned out on x days. The horse did not get turned out. Additionally, what's the deal with friend 2's horses? Am I supposed to be taking care of them as well?
Friend 1 - Oh whoops! I'll let friend 2 know. Yes, please take care of friend 2's horses.
Me - Okay, but what days are you taking, and what is friend two taking? Because doing additional horses increases my workload, and it's only fair we all pitch in.
Friend 1 - oh... well. here's what we will do: blah blah blah.

Basically, this is a business arrangement. Don't think of it as being nice to friends first, because that's how you'll get taken advantage of. Think of yourself as the client paying for these services with your labor, and if they are not providing what they promised, they need to be fired.

You guys won't automatically end up enemies just because you can't agree on days. But don't let them take advantage of you, because you are setting yourself up for them to continue to take advantage of you. It's just like training an animal - let it get away with something, and it has no incentive to stop the behavior.

What would you think the politician is going to do to you? You're not doing anything illegal or bad or even mean. And if he's worth anything, if his lady comes to him complaining that someone at the barn wants her to stick with her promise to exchange services, he'll tell her she should stand by obligations.
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post #22 of 32 Old 12-02-2011, 04:38 PM
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I wouldn't bring up that you are not happy like many posters have said. Just state what you need (horse needs turned out on what days, ect.)and what you can give in return. Words like I am not happy are negetive and can rub people the wrong way.
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post #23 of 32 Old 12-06-2011, 08:47 AM
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so did the meeting happen yet!!! i would like hear the update if possible. very curious :) hope it works out
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post #24 of 32 Old 12-06-2011, 09:25 AM
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Originally Posted by robohog View Post
A meeting is a very good idea. hopefully i can attend. Believe it or not i can be a very good negotiator if needed lol. For those of you that say she should go in there "guns-a-blazin" is not very good advice in this situation. These particular women need to be handled delicately. One of her friends involved is a semi-powerful politician and the other is a barn owner favorite. both whom you would want to keep as friends in case "a favor" is needed. We could swing a full care situation but i dont think its needed at this time. Things were working ok till this 3rd wheel got involved.
Sorry - Cinny is just as important as the semi-powerful politician and the barn owner favorite. While I agree guns blazing is not the way to go, I don't think any special care should be taken to insure the others feelings aren't ruffled.
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post #25 of 32 Old 12-06-2011, 02:02 PM
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What's happened? Has the meeting gone down ? ;)
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post #26 of 32 Old 12-06-2011, 02:19 PM
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You never mention why the 3rd person was not turning Cinny out. Was it just a misunderstanding?
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post #27 of 32 Old 12-06-2011, 04:09 PM Thread Starter
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Baby has had pneumonia for a week and then I was in ER last night. Meeting postponed.
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post #28 of 32 Old 12-06-2011, 04:37 PM
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oh i am sorry to hear hope everyone feels better soon :)
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post #29 of 32 Old 12-10-2011, 08:01 PM Thread Starter
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We finally talked and got everything worked out. I won't be doing any added work but Cinny will be getting his turn out several days a week. Not every day, but that's okay with me. It looks like when the weather is nice enough for the others to get out, he will most likely get out too.
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post #30 of 32 Old 12-10-2011, 11:05 PM
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Hmmm...most likely, you say?? But how will you know for sure?? What if they just don't turn him out but say they did? do you go out each night so that you will know if they turned him out or not?

Just curious: you say he won't get out every day, but that is ok with i wanted to ask, do the other horses get out every day the weather permits? Or will it just be Cinny who won't be getting out every day?

Just a tad confused.
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