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post #21 of 60 Old 05-01-2012, 10:14 PM
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Do not let it go a day further. Do you have any documentation of his offer to pay you for the training you did? Anything in writing at all? By ignoring it, you have only inadvertently encouraged the bad behavior. Have there ever been any witnesses to this? If not, you are in the unfortunate position of a "he said, she said" case, which is hard for the law to do anything about. Bring someone you trust with you the very next time you go to the barn, doesn't matter who. Speak to him in front of that person, and let him no no further touching of any kind will be permitted, and no further comments about your body. Explain you will be recording any future interactions with him, just in case. (Many phones or other small electronic devices can do this.)

That should hopefully buy you enough time to get your horses to a safer place for everyone concerned.

Is there anyone in local law enforcement that you know?
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post #22 of 60 Old 05-01-2012, 10:17 PM
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Bikers would be my preference. Or grab a marine guard or fireman and lug him along.
It doesn't need to be a biker, marine or fireman.

I don't know any man who when faced with the situation Nuala has been enduring, who could not face the BO with his behavour in mind and present an intimidating enough presence to almost definitely ensure it stops. The BO is just a horny old bully picking on someone who he perceives as weaker than him.

I've dealt with similar situations for my female friends a couple of times in the past. I'm not all that intimidating on the average day, but I've never had to have a second conversation with the offending guy.

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Well I am done with it I am going to finish out board and if he tries again It will be my boot winking at him when he brushes his teeth in the morning. No it was a verbal agreement that I believe he did discuss with his former trainer, who retired to trail riding only. Hopefully if it happens again I'l have either my gelding or my friends because both of them will "go after" him on my say so.

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post #24 of 60 Old 05-01-2012, 11:10 PM
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It doesn't need to be a biker, marine or fireman.

I don't know any man who when faced with the situation Nuala has been enduring, who could not face the BO with his behavour in mind and present an intimidating enough presence to almost definitely ensure it stops.
Oh I know I was joking.

I know any man could do it.

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To quote the advice I was given? Grab him back and squeeze like your life depends on it - works just as well as kicking, and at first he thinks your interested - so, it's emotional too!
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MisssMarie - I'd not do that, for fear of getting prosecuted or charged with assault. A kick is more likely to be seen as a reflexive - not-premeditated - reaction.

And frankly, although I am female, and only 5' 6" I can be as intimidating as any man, it's all in the attitude. I tell people I may not have inherited my Dad's height, but I have a 6-foot-tall attitude regardless. (I did get at least 5 extra inches of height from Dad's side, not complaining!)

Nuala, keep your guard up, and try never to be alone with the guy, just in case.
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MisssMarie.. I wouldn't do that either. Some guys like that... that, to me, is inviting a sexual advance rather than stopping one dead in its tracks.

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post #28 of 60 Old 05-01-2012, 11:31 PM
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Hmmm forgive me because I have not read all the replies but I do not believe your thinking is too clear on this one. Forget the other horse, money, training, the price of tea in china and anything else.
Move your horses elsewhere period and have nothing to do with the pervert.
End of story.
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I second Sky and PetoftheDay, MissMarie.

The old man would probably take that as a sexual advance, mens' minds and logic often don't go hand and hand.

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Oh I know I was joking.

I know any man could do it.
Ah okay, that humor didn't convey through the text.

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post #30 of 60 Old 05-01-2012, 11:52 PM
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Ah okay, that humor didn't convey through the text.

Yeahhh sorry about that!

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