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post #21 of 68 Old 02-28-2014, 11:18 PM
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Hi Cinny. I suspect you will have to go, but if you do want to give this a chance of getting sorted...

Are you doing all this by text? If so, stop that now. 'Phone your BO and request a face to face meeting next week. I am sure that she can move some mountains and be there if she knows she has to.

Then at the meeting tell her to her face that you will go unless she moves monster away from your horses field. No compromise, no part turn out, no excuse, no reason or justification needed.

This may not work - you may still have to move - but this is the only way to give yourself a chance of staying.

I wish you luck with it.
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post #22 of 68 Old 02-28-2014, 11:52 PM
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I would insist on a face to face meeting before I paid anymore board. At that meeting I would tell her that when I moved in she understood that my horse not having full turn out and a round bale ALL BY HIMSELF were deal breakers and that now that she has moved this unmannerly horse in with my horse SHE has broken our contract. I'd also let her know that I would not be accepting any changes except for that horse to be removed from MY horse's paddock. If she chooses not to remedy the situation forthwith, I would pay day by day until I found new lodging for the horse and I would not allow her to talk me into anything else. If she needs the money, I bet she finds a way to get monster horse out of your boy's paddock quickly. Just because she lets people and horses walk all over her is no reason for you to do the same.

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post #23 of 68 Old 03-01-2014, 12:54 PM Thread Starter
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Well, she started texting me like nuts at about 9:30pm last night. First she was saying there was no Board check (I have until the 5th to pay it and it wasn't even the 1st) then insisting a face to face to discuss the situation. I told her with my husbands work schedule it's hard to say a definite day and time because I don't want to get a babysitter. I was then accused of NOT wanting to work things out. I told her that wasn't true I just can't say when my hubby will be home. I really don't want to pay a babysitter for this because I am charged 10 an hour. As it is I'm paying 80 a month extra when you consider it takes at least half an hour to get cin out, 3-4 times a week. That's about 80 bucks right there. She eventually blew up, told me she wasn't texting anymore because it was too unprofessional. As if texting a client at 9:30pm is professional in the first place?

Then this shows up on her friend's FB "I am simply amazed at how much some people live in their own little world and give no thought to how they treat others or make them feel because in their mind their needs are supposed to trump everyone else's." the same time I am texting her. Um, yeah A PERSONS SAFETY TRUMPS SOMEONE ELSED CONVENIENCE!!! Although, it may not have been aimed at me but as she cries on my shoulder and complains about other boarders I am sure that is what happened in regards to ME last night...

I think I found a stable to move to. It's one I didn't know was there and I think one of my friends from my old barn is there so I asked her about it. I know I will cry while moving though. I love my barn, and I may be mad and frustrated with her right now but I like my BO too. She is just "green" to barn management and takes the route of trying to please everyone instead of making safety a priority and setting definite rules.

This morning I sent her a text saying my hubby would be home. I asked if she wanted to meet later today, possibly for lunch/dinner somewhere? I also suggested my house so I don't have to get a sitter and we can discuss and I can make a meal. I said I really want to work this out.

She has not replied.
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post #24 of 68 Old 03-01-2014, 01:15 PM
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I am sorry that you are going through this. it really sucks, you go to barn to enjoy yourself, and you have to deal with this. you really have to stand up for yourself. I would pay her for just 1 week.. and tell her that if your horse is not put in a different pen by the end of that week, then you will be taking your horse somewhere else.
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post #25 of 68 Old 03-01-2014, 01:34 PM
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Agreed. Move your horse!! Your BO sounds really unprofessional. If she complains to you about other boarders she is undoubtedly doing the same ABOUT you to them. I wonder where Monsters owner is in this scenario? Has she been contacted? You'd think the BO would want to loose an absent owner & bad mannered horse instead of the opposite, you & Cin!

I'm curious to what your BO says to you! Update us when you can!
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post #26 of 68 Old 03-01-2014, 08:11 PM
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Help yourself not love that place so much. Why is this BO taking the side of a no-show owner with a dangerous horse.

Your friends are there. Are they saying anything for your benefit?

I would get out of there asap, pay weekly, or don't pay at all and see if that gets her attention.
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post #27 of 68 Old 03-01-2014, 08:24 PM
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VERY unprofessional and negligent lady. Do not cook for her. Do continue to make plans to go to the new barn, (Yay!!) and Do Not feel you owe her further explanation/apology, as she DEFINITELY has proven to all she "Lives in her own little world". Simply leave as soon as you can, and shame on her.
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post #28 of 68 Old 03-02-2014, 09:25 AM Thread Starter
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My friend who is at the new place finally got back to me. Sad news she says it isn't really ideal. It's a breeding barn and when the foals start popping out there will be no room. She also told me that turnout is very limited, which is NOT what I was lead to believe by the owner. My friend is actually looking to move out before the foals hit the ground.

I'm supposed to meet BO today at the barn. We only have temps in the single digits and I really do not want to be out there talking in that kind of cold. I would much rather make dinner and be in my warm house than to be out in the freezing weather.
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post #29 of 68 Old 03-02-2014, 02:45 PM
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I really hope it goes well Cinny. don't let her walk over you and stand up for yourself. it isn't a big deal to move your horse to a different field.
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post #30 of 68 Old 03-02-2014, 04:22 PM
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Sounds very frustrating. I am fortunate to have my mare at my home. I did have her boarded for one year when we relocated and built a house but I was fortunate to not have to deal with any problems. Stand up for you and your horse. If I were in your shoes I would move if possible.
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